• weeeeum@lemmy.world
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    You are 10x more likely to die by falling, car crash or unintentionally poisoned than get murdered.

    You are 20x more likely to die by falling, car crash, or unintentionally poisoned than get murdered, as a woman.

    Women are actually much less likely to get murdered in general.

    Stop villainizing men. This is equally as idiotic as villainizing POC because they have higher crime rates Dont sink to the level of the GOP by generalizing. The unfair alienation of young men is real, and ultimately cost us the election, just so we can feel better than them.

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    Random woman: I like late night walks, but I’m scared for my safety.

    This thread for some reason: YOU DON’T THINK MEN GET SCARED? MURDERED!?

    Like, chill. Yes, men can absolutely be murdered/hurt walking alone. But are we really going to sit here and act like women are making up their concerns/grievances out of spite? For some reason, if anyone mentions a general concern/issue related to women’s experiences with men, some people trip over themselves to say how it’s actually not an issue and how it’s actually so much worse for men. If I’m listening to a male DV victim and I go, “well, actually, women are more likely to be victims of DV. You know, it’s actually not even an issue for you. Here, look at these numbers that prove that women are the victims. Do you not mention it because you hate women? Why are you trying to ruin our spotless reputation as delicate flowers that can do no wrong with your lies”, you would think I was nuts, and for good reason.

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      Because you are solipsistic & are desperate to get into the pants of a woman, that’s why

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        tfw you can’t see women as anything other than sex objects and you just assume everyone else is like you

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          That’s rich coming a person that wants to demonize men (Oh & BTW, who told Women to make an OnlyFans ?? Not men)

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            onlyfans supplies the demand coming from men what the fuck are you talking about

            also most women don’t even fucking have an onlyfans you dumbass. why do incels always insert that into every conversation? what the hell is going on with you guys?

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    Oh cool we’re back in … 2010? and we’re doing FBI crime stats discourse again, except this time we’re doing the breakdown by gender instead of race.

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    Reading the comments make me feel like I’m reading 4chan. How are people getting triggered by that post

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    How is this not bigotry and discrimination toward a group of population?

    I’ve seen the same post in far right groups just changing the word man by some racial slur. Same energy. And also same bigots trying to justify their intolerance with shitty stadistics.

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      Because men are statistically more likely to commit violent crimes. Targeting both men and women. Women are just easier targets because they are physically weaker.

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        Because men are statistically more likely to commit violent crimes.

        So you’re saying it’s ok to make negative statements about a subset of people as long as they are statistically more likely to commit violent crimes?

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        in some places people of certain skincolors or descents are more likely to commit certain crimes so that’s not really an argument.

        The better argument IMO is that the racist versions target discriminated minority groups, while this one targets the group that is generally not the victim

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    lemmy.world mods finding out that they’ve cultivated a community of reddit incels:

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    Yikes. Someone makes a gender based overgeneralization when overwhelming evidence (look at crime stats) proves it incorrect, and those that dare to defend that group get attacked.

    Bigotry is bigotry. If you hate a group purely based on their superficial membership, then you are bigoted.

    https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/bigot#:~:text=noun,group)%20with%20hatred%20and%20intolerance

    The strongest argument you have is when you compare violence perpetrated by gender. But even then, that doesn’t support your argument that all men are evil in some way. And at such low numbers, it’s disingenuous deflection b/c even the two summed up don’t account for even 1% of the population. Sad that so many of you have brain rot.

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      does the post say “all men are murderers”? no, it doesn’t. it is however true that a disproportionate amount of men are murderers, especially compared to women, the number of whom that are murderers of men or other women are so statistically low compared to men that it isn’t even worthy of consideration.

      men, generally, are far more likely to commit acts of violence than women. and the number of men who do, while not the majority, is high enough for women to be afraid of men in general.

      under our existing patriarchal social conditions, men are murderers. they’re more inclined to violence and present a higher risk than women. saying “men are murderers” doesn’t mean “all men including you are murderers” it simply means that the threat is near entirely comprised of men. you should also be aware that we also don’t think that this is inherent to being a man but a manifestation of social conditioning under patriarchy that encourages such behavior in men.

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        lol, i literally point out how your retort is flawed, and you bull head through it anyways.

        What’s funny but somehow escapes the terminal basement dwellers is that the majority of productive women do not worry about this b/c they understand how stats work. But bigots are never smart enough to even understand basic stats.

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          you didn’t cite any actual statistics, meanwhile throughout this thread people have been citing stats that prove you wrong. violent crime between men and women is not equal, and women are disproportionately victimized by it and men disproportionately cause it.

          and yes, i’m fully aware these statistics compare violence by gender. no one is saying that because the majority of violent crime is committed by men, that the majority of men are violent criminals. you’re being obtuse and missing the point on purpose.

          with that said, the number of women in total affected by violence, sexual violence especially is indeed high anyway. even if it isn’t all men, it happens enough that all women have to live in fear.

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            It’s not hard to find how low the crime stats are. FBI posts them yearly. It’s called google.

            Obv you don’t get how to make a statistical argument if you bull headedly stuck with it. In the end, while you’re busy preoccupied by the gender distraction, a good amount of us are furthering the real divide, class. And well, while you’re still repeating your tired, pointless arguments, productive people (men and women) are leaving you behind…happily.

            Simply put, you can’t say “too bad men are murderers tho” or any other derivative when you use a stat that doesn’t actually support that argument. But again, bigots aren’t the smartest lot.

            Have a nice night.

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              i actually posted the FBI statistics in my reply. you didn’t. you didn’t even fucking read them i bet.

              you can’t liberate the proles without the liberation of marginalized groups among them. stop pretending to be a comrade in class struggle when you’re just a misogynist and opposed to what we stand for.

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                Yea, but the stat doesn’t support your argument lol

                Also, your assumption of my misogyny is completely unfounded. However, your misandry/bigotry is an full display. It’s all good though. Your bigotry will hold you back for as long as you hold onto it. I, on the other hand, will continue to work with my colleagues, men and women. We work well together b/c we actually understand how to dissect an argument and how racists/misandrists/misogynists/bigots lie with stats…like you’re doing now.

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                  it literally does. you don’t even understand my argument.

                  good luck having women work with you though, i’m sure they’ll love how you downplay their experiences with sexual violence because “not all men are bad”

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      Woman: “I and every woman I know have had some really bad experiences with men”

      This dude: “Actually, you’ve had bad experiences with a small minority of men. Why do you hate all men?”

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        And of course your common sense take is getting downvoted. (Edit was -2 when I posted). They should get the bears to protect them.

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    removed wouldn’t be so scared if she had mad bo staff skills… Napoleon tried to show ya’ll, but everyone just laughed… Tina you fat lard come and get some dinner!

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    What and guys aren’t worried about being murdered by other dudes at night? Lol

    https://www.victimsweek.gc.ca/res/r512.html#:~:text=In that year%2C men were,a weapon used against them.&text=Young men under the age,-corporate area)%20than%20women.

    Statistically men are more likely to be attacked, robbed, sexually assaulted (in a public institution) and shot than women.

    https://www.statista.com/statistics/1388777/murder-victims-in-the-us-by-gender/#:~:text=In 2023%2C the FBI reported,female in the United States.

    Men are more likely to be murdered in general.

    https://www.statista.com/statistics/423245/us-violent-crime-victims-by-gender/

    Violent crimes happen to men more than women on average.

    I am a HUGE advocate for women staying safe. I think more women need to purchase and properly learn how to use a personal high speed lead slinging device.

    HOWEVER I do not care for this claim that women are always the victims. Statistically they aren’t more frequently attacked or murdered. In fact they are slightly less likely to be victims. Bad people are gonna do bad things and everyone should learn to protect themselves against those bad people.

    DOUBLE HOWEVER Men are overwhelming the perpetrator of violent crimes against everyone. More than 75% of violent crimes is committed by men.

    https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.statista.com/chart/amp/33058/victims-and-perpetrators-of-reported-violent-crime-in-the-us-by-reported-sex/

    At the end of the day everyone should stay safe. Keep your head on a swivel. Obtain and learn how to use a personal defense tool. Be smart.

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      What those statistics do not take into account is the different incidence rates of men/women being out alone at night.

      Because women feel more afraid going out into the dark alone, they’re less likely to do so, creating less opportunities for them to be robbed/raped/killed.

      To make an analogy:
      What are my chances to drown in the sea if I never go swimming in the sea? 0% chance.
      What if I go swimming once a week, with a risk of drowning of 0.5% each time I do so: then there’s ~23% chance that I’ll drown by the end of the year.
      What if go swimming twice a year, but because I’m such an amateur the chance that I drown is 5%: there is ~10% chance that I drown by the end of the year.

      Conclusion: even though it is 10x more dangerous for the inexperienced swimmer to go swimming in the sea, in a given year the experienced swimmer is still 2.3 times more likely to drown in the sea than the inexperienced one.

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      Forget about it, there’s no talking or reasoning with man-haters

      It’s going to be fun when the GenderKKK attacks these male-feminists, because they’re men

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      I routinely would go on long walks at all hours of the night (like 3am), with headphones on. Ive done this in the US, Brazil, and Europe in all kinds of neighborhoods. I was a 180lb male and I somewhat consciously and subconsciously would put on the lunatic vibe of “I am the one who knocks”.

      Now I started my transition, down to 150 lbs, dressing more feminine. Still have a decent amount of muscle but Truuust me, the vibe is not the same. This meme is valid.

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      I do not care for this claim that women are always the victims.

      who said this?

      honest query. I don’t see it in OP’s statement. You do corroborate their premise -

      Men are overwhelming the perpetrator of violent crimes against everyone. More than 75% of violent crimes is committed by men.

      so why the strawman argument at the start?

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      You write like you are disagreeing with something in this post, in your own small pathetic way. But I fail to see what part of the post you are disagreeing with

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      Wow. That is a whole lot of getting your undies in a wad over a meme that does NOT exclude any gender feeling this way.

      You brought a bunch of bias to this one. Might want to look into why that is

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      I wonder if the murder rates are skewed by organized crime/gangs. That has a male skewed gender ratio and high murder rates.

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        Gangs drive murder rates. Looking at areas in the US without gang activity, the murder rate is almost as low anywhere else in the world.

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        Almost certainly.

        Unfortunately it’s very difficult to pull apart big data sets accurately. It’s difficult to pin down what murders are for sure gang related and which ones aren’t. Obviously there are some situations where it’s very clear, but some where it is not. Where you draw that line changes things significantly.

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          almost certainly

          This does not jive with the tenor of your first comment which tries to equate violence against women with violence against men.

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            Did we read the same comment? He was pointing out statistics around males, not downplaying the statistics around women.

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              Isn’t it interesting how whenever women come up someone has to rush to point out men as victims, as if to talk about women detracts from that?

              Curious.

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            He’s just making stuff up anyway. It’s not difficult to pull apart those data sets. The information is readily available. It just doesn’t show the first thing that came out of his mouth is correct.

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      So of the photo was of a man, bit with the same text it would be ok. Right? Both you, me, and the woman in the photo agree that men are the problem.

      “Not all men” agreed, but enough to men to make others afraid.

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        True. The caption doesn’t imply any gender for the potential victim, it just happened the original poster is female.

        If they have to post any statistics at all, it should only be about the criminal, which they did but with a Google AMP link grrrrrrr

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      There are shittons of rape & murder fantasy communities with secretly taken & stolen pictures on porn & snuff websites, on the snuff websites there’s unfortunately also real stuff.

      This is something I really didn’t want to know. I wouldn’t want to walk in the shoes of my gf honestly just judging from the amount of harassment she faces in liberal, progressive western cities by men of all age & skin color (need to say this nowadays unfortunately). Add to that being physically inferior that creates a sense of being constantly threatened. Also, they are targeted specifically because they are women and femicide is a real, bad issue.

      Not disagreeing that anyone could be affected, just saying I can easily walk at night because no one would target me specifically for being a man.

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        Clearly you’ve never been jumped lol. It’ll give you a whole new perspective on the world and walking around alone as a guy.

        I find it gross that you referred to your own girlfriend as “physically inferior”. I think the better term is physically at a disadvantage.

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          Since you’re talking to a complete stranger on an anonymous platform it makes no sense to make any assumptions like that.

          English is not my first language, in case that was an offensive formulation I apologize.

          But your response definitely makes me question your intentions.

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            I apologizing for assuming. You said something along the lines of “nobody would jump be just because I’m a man” which tells me you haven’t been assaulted by random guys before in your life. They absolutely will jump you for no reason regardless of your gender. I posted those exact statistics in my first comment.

            And the word “inferior” has a negative connotation connected to it. You usually use it to describe something that is worse in every way. For example: “I only use zip lock bags because other plastic resealable bag brands are all inferior”.

            Your comment about your girlfriend taken at face value came across very sexist. Which is all we can do without knowing someone, how was I supposed to know English is your second language? You use better punctuation than me and it’s the only language I know lol.