• LouNeko@lemmy.world
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    4 months ago

    Yeah, but 'Ew, he’s creepy 🤮😟😐" doesn’t have an ‘Aw he’s creepy 🤗😊☺️’.

    • brbposting@sh.itjust.works
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      4 months ago

      When it comes to three things:

      • free drinks
      • doors held open
      • promiscuous mating

      So… did you forget like………. rape?

      (If you were joking, nvm)

      Other stuff for the record btw:

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        I’d just like to point out that while women are certainly victims of rape and their likelihood to be raped in their life is far higher, they are far from the only victims of rape. Men are also victims of rape, but often their victimhood is marginalized and ignored, forcing them to suffer in silence or find what little support they can from their romantic partner, if they are lucky enough to have one that doesn’t leave or trivialize their feelings. Women face these same challenges, but they can find support in loved ones, family members, and romantic partners, or failing that at least at women’s shelters. Support that may be nonexistent for their brother or father or partner. To make everything worse, men bear the specter of rape and the rapists who committed it. People feel the need to take precautions with male strangers, acquaintances, and even friends, which can damage their relationships with the men around them, even if those men never have or would rape anyone. All of this is fucked up. I’m not sure why I took the time to type this, but what I’m trying to say is there are reasons why some men have that perception of women. When you are starved of affection and love, see a romantic partner as the only viable means to get it, and constantly feel alienated by what you see as your only viable romantic partners, it’s easy to start resenting them. Men see women turning down with disgust more love than they could hope to be offered in a lifetime, their one goal as they drown in their loneliness, and of course they assume women have it easy. It’s wrong, obviously, on even a cursory inspection, but loneliness and depression don’t exactly encourage critical thinking and deep emotional introspection.

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        4 months ago

        And even those 3 advantages only apply to certain women. It’s so easy to generalize, but what if you’re fat, or gay, or something? What if you’re an asexual Muslim who loves opening doors? Poof. No advantages, only hard mode.

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            4 months ago

            They all seem legit. I don’t have personal experience here, but I’ve seen many from the outside, and spoken with women whose experiences certainly don’t sound anything like “life on easy mode”.

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              Wow I had a major dumb moment, I must’ve read your comment in a mirror or something… I think I skimmed hard and thought it was saying the opposite.

              Re-read it properly now, and wouldn’t have asked that question above ;)

    • moon@lemmy.ml
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      4 months ago

      No one has it easy when it comes to dating. It’s arguable that women can find casual sex easier, but finding people who love you for who you are is equally difficult for everyone.

      This post is celebrating when people manage to overcome that and making incel comments just spoils the mood for everyone

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        Also casual sex may be easier if you’re a woman attracted to men (not easy as a lesbian, especially compared to gay men), but good casual sex and safe casual sex aren’t easy casual sex in this case