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    Why do people care so much? Idgaf who uses which bathroom. Do people have men and women’s bathrooms in their own homes?

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      Let’s just go to all gender bathrooms with highly private stalls like every other civilized country

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    If anyone questions actual trans women, they should say they were only in the women’s washroom to look for other males.

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        The terms “male” and “female” refer to sex while “man” and “woman” refer to gender. A trans woman is male by definition.

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        I think in this context it’s to make a joke about the male hotel guard going into the women’s bathroom to check for “other males”

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    Wait wait wait… So a man barges into a women’s bathroom to pull out a woman just to make sure there are no men in there

    My mind is stuck in an endless logic loop

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        Oh yes, you’re right. What’s at play is plain anti trans discrimination pushed by a government wanting to distract the populace from looking while they rob the state blind

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        The Liberty Hotel initially defended the guard’s actions in a now-retracted statement, claiming “several guests alerted security about two adults occupying a single bathroom stall” and asserting that a physical altercation occurred. Baker and Victor denied those claims outright.

        “If that’s what he thought the issue was once he opened the stall door, obviously there was only one person in there, so it should’ve been case closed,” Victor said. “Let her tie up her shorts and go about her day.”

        So the guard actually opened the stall door while she was still using the toilet, found a woman in there, and then stuck around to demand ID to prove she was a woman? What a weird thing to do.

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          I remember back years and years ago conservatives who regularly used unisex bathrooms losing their shit over gender neutral bathrooms because women were afraid of men entering the bathroom at the same time and forcing open stall doors to take a peek.

          And here we are except it was those petrified conservatives doing the forcing and peeking. Guess they were afraid of themselves.

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            Guess they were afraid of themselves.

            That seems to drive a whole lot of right-wing attitudes. “Everyone is like me, therefore everyone is scary and dangerous.” But without the self-awareness.

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          “ The Liberty Hotel initially defended the guard’s actions in a now-retracted statement, claiming “several guests alerted security about two adults occupying a single bathroom stall” and asserting that a physical altercation occurred. Baker and Victor denied those claims outright.”

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            Yea, they complained about multiple people in a stall which is typically legitimately weird behavior and then Paul Blart, mall TERF took it on himself to be a bigot for reasons completely unrelated to customer complaints.

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    Anybody remember those SNL skits where a character named Pat was not clearly male or female, and the whole joke was how everyone was just confused about how to address them but still ended up being polite and friendly? I don’t understand how our culture got from there to people demanding proof of gender from strangers.

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      i love movies like that, too, but it definitely wasn’t popular when it was released. and pat was always the butt of the joke. i also have to check my “but we cured racism in the 90s” indoctrination sometimes. fresh prince made me think things were a lot better than they really were back then.

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        fresh prince made me think things were a lot better than they really were back then.

        Fresh Prince had a lot of references to the fact that racism was alive and well in the 90s. Many of those episodes also focus around the theme that even though the Banks’ were wealthy, it still didn’t stop them from being discriminated against, and even caused discrimination from other black people.

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        It’s Pat, the movie, was a notorious commercial bomb, and sold basically no tickets.

        It was made, though, because the recurring SNL sketch was popular enough to attract the investment.

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          The second statement is true, and yet hyperbolic. That was the same time that they made the Coneheads movie, another bomb about SNL characters that had not been on screen in like 20 years. And like five other bombs on the same model.

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        Yeah, I was a kid when SNL was still airing those skits and they didn’t feel enlightened to me at all. Like, this is the same show that “joked” that Brandon Teena (who was already known to be murdered at that point) deserved to die for reporting his rape. Like, not as a shocking thing a heel would say, just a crass joke. It was hilarious to people then, that’s the environment It’s Pat is in.

        The 90s were fucked up, y’all.

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    My wife and I went to what we thought was a suuuuper leftist bar in Berlin; Marxist stuff all over the walls, anti-Nazi stuff, etc., but the bartender stopped my wife from entering the restroom, accusing them of not being a cis woman. Sullied the whole goddamn vibe of the place.

    TERFs are such awkward bigots in that they have no endgame other than to see your fuckin’ genitals. No safety, no greater good, just do you have a dick or not?

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      now ma’am, I believe that you were born a biological woman like you’re saying, but its company policy that I gotta see that removed

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    So, why is it OK for guard man to go inside if there might be a man in there? Does this not double the number of men in the bathroom? I don’t understand bigot logic. The women joining in like that is appalling.

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    This is bad. But what really struck me was that a hotel had a guard? Do you have guards EVERYWHERE?

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      Not sure if you’re being serious, but yeah we have guards pretty much everywhere in the US, particularly in cities. We also have guards at grocery stores (usually multiple guards, and they’re usually cops in uniform hired by the store) and at discount stores and sometimes on buses and trains. I’ve even seen them at convenience stores and cell phone shops. My apartment building has an armed guard on site with their own police-clone patrol SUV from like 10pm to 6am every night, I’ve had to call them a couple times and they arrive faster than the cops.

      The US is a violent removed and the guards primarily keep away sketchy troublemakers (except in larger stores where they’re useless and only used to deter shoplifting).

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        Yes serious question. I live in Canada, at most you might see mall security. Just people with a uniform. No weapons. Anywhere else it would be strange to see “guards”. It’s been a while since I was state side. But if it’s become this common the United States has serious problems.

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      Reminded me of a comment a colleague made during a hotel stay in the US, “they got six people greeting me as I enter the lobby but no one to fix my shower”.

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      In the US? Only if there’s money.

      Guards are only to protect assets not people. When I used to Metro in the Pentagon you would see four or five armed guards with m4s and body armor protecting the carts of the money for the Metro machines. They could give two shits about anyone else.

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      Tucson here: armed and unarmed guards are really common at low-class-linked businesses like thrift stores, Fry’s supermarkets, Walmart, Dollar stores, Walgreens/CVS. God forbid someone steal food or pharmacy items like shavers (shaver cartridges here are crazy expensive if you get name brand). Walgreens/CVS also has a tendency to lock the shelves behind plexiglass so you have to ask for help to buy more expensive items.

      In some cases, these kind of stores are targeted specifically. There are shopping centers with higher end restaurants that coexist with super high theft locations literally within walking distance.

      TLDR: it’s mostly to abate crimes of poverty

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    Hopefully TERFs will learn at some point that discrimination against trans women also harms cis women and empowers the patriarch.

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    Just start denying any male who don’t look like a bodybuilder in the mens room pretty sure then stuff would get figured out.

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    Wait wait

    They want the woman to go to the men’s room???

    😵‍💫

    Or… Or, is it that maybe gender is like maybe a lil bit gray, and the officer made a mistake? 🧐

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    Hope nobody lets him take a crap in peace ever again. Keep barging in on him and demanding he show id.