Seems to be an increasingly popular opinion, but hey ho. For me Lemmy is better by an order of magnitude - at least for now.

I’ve yet to have to deal with any overzealous mods, or been site-banned for some minor rule infraction by some bot. Nobody’s been particularly shitty to me. Plus my comments, although never accruing stellar amounts of up-votes, are usually acknowledged and added to rather than being ignored because I posted an hour later and people can’t be arsed to scroll that far down the thread.

Honestly, I’m pretty happy with it. Sure, there’s certain vocal, marginalized groups who are always massively over-represented on platforms like this, but I filter out certain keywords using the Boost app and, basically, it’s all good.

i feel like a lot of you people are absolutely terrible at moderating your own content, you know you can block people and communities, right?

The only actual differences I’ve found are that there’s no ads, and some instances have a more gated sign-up process to deter bots/spammers. That’s it.

That’s why I came here plus stopping generating profit for an American corporation

People are people, manage your expectations accordingly.

These kinds of federated services were never meant to be better than reddit in a content sense, all they do is provide a system in which the possibility of a subjectively better platform was possible.

More simply, federated services are about federation/decentralisation.

The idiomatic solution to the problem you’re describing is either to:

start your own federated instance, with the prerequisite amount of hookers and blackjack, but also sufficient rules and moderational enforcement to adhere to your expectations of what a better reddit looks like.

or

find an instance that already does this and join it.

This is a thing that is possible in a federated service, which is the actual difference between reddit and lemmy/piefed etc

Upvote for unpopular opinion.

I joined years ago and as more people with more variety in perspectives from all around the world are joining in, things are better and better.

I started on reddit when it opened, and quit after they started selling out more and more. I think lemmy feels a bit what reddit was starting off, and thats a good thing.

In other news, people exist and some of them are dicks. Some of them just disagree with you. Some are/do both.

Also, maybe consider the possibility that there is no such thing as a ‘hive mind’ anywhere and its just a lot of people in a particular space don’t agree with you about some things.

People are starting to get snarly and insulting on here as well. Not surprising though, it’s an manufactured unfair world and people are angry about it. I’m guilty of it myself from time to time…but I try to do better.

As we get more and more people who were banned from Reddit and think they can come here to contonue being assholes, yeah. I’m here because I hate the Reddit UI and official app, so when they killed off 3rd party apps I refused to play along. The people who jumped ship by choice are usually fine, but yeah overall you’re not wrong.

The lack of content a couple of years ago and behaviour of a lot of the userbase now has consistently helped cut down on the doomscrolling though, can’t complain there.

Not sure whether to upvote or downvote, so I’ll just reply.

The content is not much better for all the reasons OP mentioned. I’d like to add one more thing, that has been mentioned earlier in similar discussions: niche communities do not exist yet or at best hardly have any activity. For those I still occasionally use Reddit.

One thing that is actually better, apart from the ads that OP mentioned, is no corporate filters (which may or definitely do reflect the current political climate, dependent on the social medium in question).

Lemmy can be considered as a playground of anarchy. Unfortunately, anarchy shows clearly what kind of chaos humanity is.

Without order nothing exists; without chaos nothing evolves.

These issues are somewhat unavoidable to some extent when it comes to community-moderated forums, be it Reddit or Lemmy.

And what’s wrong with communities propped up by single users? (I may be biased as one such user.)

I think the biggest difference is how much of an echo chamber Lemmy is compared to Reddit. I’m saying this knowing Reddit is an echo chamber as well but Lemmy goes above and beyond.

I have more control here. that is all I really care about.

Lemmy is way better then Reddit.

The Reddit mods are crazy oppressive

The moderation certainly isn’t better. Looking at you .world mods.