examples:
living alone: for centuries people just didnt do this and families lived in intergenerational households.
finding ”the one”: as liberal societies started promoting the nuclear family and the spouse as being the main source of emotional confidant as opposed to interconnected communities
being happy with your job: most of the times the job was just for survival
being happy/stable most of the time
I want to add “poker face” isn’t bad. And one can benefit from a thorough understanding of Machiavelli, Green’s 48 Laws of Power, and Sun-Tzu’s Art of War. In fact, I’ll go do so far as to say not studying these texts does anyone who dismisses them a grave and injurious disservice to themselves, as well as any collective endeavor that imagines success.