There’s no freedom in having to do something but you’re also not free to choose your wants.

Maybe it’s better to just live and let life happen instead of thinking about what could’ve been. What ever happened is the only thing that could’ve happened.

    • ContrarianTrail@lemm.eeOPEnglish
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      2 months ago

      People don’t do stuff they don’t want to to because they couldn’t think of anything better to do. If you decide to just stay in and lay in bed because you couldn’t think of anything better to do then laying in bed is what you preferred to do above everything else, otherwise you’d be doing something else.

      • Dwemthy (he/him)@lemdro.idEnglish
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        2 months ago

        I’ve seen people staple their arms because they couldn’t think of anything better to do. You can have an impulse that you don’t actually want to do but which you follow through on

        • ContrarianTrail@lemm.eeOPEnglish
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          2 months ago

          It’s what they wanted to do at that time then. Why else would they do it? I mean really, think about it. Why would you choose to do something like that other than it’s what you felt like doing at the time.

          I have a bad habit of biting my nails. It would be correct to say that it’s something I do despite not wanting to but that wouldn’t exactly be true because when I catch myself about to do it and I resists, it’s hard because I really want to do it despite knowing I shouldn’t.

          It’s more like the person I want to be being in conflict with the person I actually am.