Wondering what your take on this is.

  • thisbenzingring@lemmy.sdf.org
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    3 months ago

    I let it stay.

    It is weird when someone that uses the number joins signal though… I want to reach out to them because I miss my brother but its a good reminder that life marches on with or without you. And we should let the ones who have left, go.

  • Miles O'Brien@startrek.website
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    3 months ago

    My Xbox friend list has a slowly growing number of gamer tags that will never be online again

    Climate change will be reversed and billionaires will be abolished before I delete my grandparents contacts from my phone. Every time I pass my grandpa’s, I hear Hello young man, it’s your grandfather. like he said every time we talked on the phone regardless of who called who.

    I can understand those who don’t feel the same way.

    Keep it if you want, don’t keep it if you don’t.

    But never forget the people.

    • Rai@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      3 months ago

      Ahhh I’m one of the dead xBox and PSN friends for many lovely people.

      I have everything from the Atari 2699 to the PS3/Wii/360… the ps4 and xBone had terrible performance and loading times so I never got them. Now I just have a bunch of high end computers and no desire to get consoles again. But I did have some sweet friends who might still see my name as “last logged in 12 years ago” or something like that.

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    3 months ago

    I add the ⚱️emoji to their name.

    Makes them easy to search for and stop to have a moment of reflection on their effect on my life.

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    3 months ago

    When the idea that we live on in the memories of the people who liked us, means sth to you, I would keep them. Every time you stumble over their entry this memory gets reactivated. I think that is a nice thing.

    My grandmother died 40 years ago and she told me, when I was very little, to fold the seems of the coffee filter before you put it in. Everytime I make coffee I think about her because of that.

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    3 months ago

    I leave them in if it’s someone i care about. I lost a school kid last year. Took his files out of my drawer today.

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    3 months ago

    I used to have a ‘extra set of grandparents’ when I was younger. An elderly couple that lived downstairs who often babysat me and spoiled me like I was their own grandchild.

    I knew their phone number by heart, this was pre smart phone(now I think of it, I can’t recall it anymore,a shame).

    They passed during my teenage years. When I went to university I had a job working call centre for a telecom discounter.

    During a slow day I looked up their number, and they apparently had been clients. So I respectfully removed them from the database.

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    3 months ago

    I’ve never deleted any saved contacts on my phone/s over the years so there’s likely more than a couple of people there who are no longer living.

  • MrsDoyle@sh.itjust.works
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    3 months ago

    I tell you what freaked me out - I was tidying up my contacts and my late sister’s photo had changed to that of a nice-looking youngish man. She died of brain cancer in Jan 2020. I’d left her contact there out of sentiment, but of course her number has been recycled. Ooof.

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    3 months ago

    Lost a very close friend 3 weeks ago way before his time and used to see him online on steam every time I was on. It hurts seeing his name and knowing he’ll never be back. In terms of phone contacts they kind of get filtered out naturally when I move devices .

  • Vanth@reddthat.com
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    3 months ago

    I don’t keep my contacts list clean. Deceased people are to be found in my contact list; not as any sort of memorials, but because it didn’t even occur to me to remove them. A couple bits of data storage is free. Going in and deleting them takes effort.