You say that, but there’s a flip side to this. I’ve been in an abusive relationship where my SO was always a hair trigger away from a full on apeshit moment.
You find yourself (regardless of your confidence) wondering if you’ve annoyed them and after a while, you flinch at any shift in tone of voice.
It can be a sign of abuse, but not just in the way you mention.
This meme is relatable but what you said is absolutely true. I’ve been at the barrel end of this psychological abuse. Of course, she was physically abusive too.
It doesn’t matter if the behavior is the result of past trauma. Taking that trauma out on your partner by treating them like they’re an abusive person is abusive.
The behavior being understandable doesn’t make it alright.
Hold up… You’re saying that being paranoid of being hurt because you’ve been hurt in the past is abusive to the person the one with trauma is untrusting of? 🤨
then the person who “can’t take it” has the responsibility of communicating it. Simply existing and having issues next to someone else is not fucking abuse. Why are you using that word so lightly
Yes. It’s on you to manage your emotions. It’s not alright to treat your partner like an abuser because you were hurt in the past. Trauma doesn’t give you a free pass to treat people poorly.
The people downvoting clearly haven’t been in a long term relationship with someone with severe PTSD. I’m going on 8 years, and while it’s getting better, it’s a huge struggle mentally to constantly be treated like you’re a bad person through absolutely no fault of your own. I’m in therapy specifically because of it.
I have my own traumas from my past, but I work hard to not let it affect my relationship because it’s not fair to my SO to take that trauma out on them.
You don’t seem to know the difference between “difficult to deal with” and “abuse,” or there’s something else going on in your relationship beyond them just not trusting you easily. A difficulty or inability to managing emotions is also a symptom of certain traumas like PTSD so putting the onus on someone you know has this difficulty like that is in really poor taste and shows a lack of understanding.
No one is responsible for your reaction to your emotions except for yourself. If your issues cause you to treat your partner poorly, it’s on you to address them.
Like I said at the beginning, having a reason for mistreating your partner doesn’t make it acceptable.
It’s emotional abuse.
You say that, but there’s a flip side to this. I’ve been in an abusive relationship where my SO was always a hair trigger away from a full on apeshit moment. You find yourself (regardless of your confidence) wondering if you’ve annoyed them and after a while, you flinch at any shift in tone of voice. It can be a sign of abuse, but not just in the way you mention.
This meme is relatable but what you said is absolutely true. I’ve been at the barrel end of this psychological abuse. Of course, she was physically abusive too.
It doesn’t matter if the behavior is the result of past trauma. Taking that trauma out on your partner by treating them like they’re an abusive person is abusive.
The behavior being understandable doesn’t make it alright.
Hold up… You’re saying that being paranoid of being hurt because you’ve been hurt in the past is abusive to the person the one with trauma is untrusting of? 🤨
Yes. Relationships are built on trust. If you won’t trust your partner, you’re not being a good partner to them.
so is a person with trust issues who really struggled supposed to just go and die alone?
this is just victim blaming
No, they’re supposed to put in the work to move past it. No one is responsible for your response to your emotions but you.
They’re supposed to date someone who can take it, if they need to date. But dating someone who can’t handle it is abuse.
“if they need to date” bruh
then the person who “can’t take it” has the responsibility of communicating it. Simply existing and having issues next to someone else is not fucking abuse. Why are you using that word so lightly
Because I’ve been abused by people who were like this. It escalated. I had PTSD so bad I couldn’t work a full time job.
Yes. It’s on you to manage your emotions. It’s not alright to treat your partner like an abuser because you were hurt in the past. Trauma doesn’t give you a free pass to treat people poorly.
The people downvoting clearly haven’t been in a long term relationship with someone with severe PTSD. I’m going on 8 years, and while it’s getting better, it’s a huge struggle mentally to constantly be treated like you’re a bad person through absolutely no fault of your own. I’m in therapy specifically because of it.
I have my own traumas from my past, but I work hard to not let it affect my relationship because it’s not fair to my SO to take that trauma out on them.
You don’t seem to know the difference between “difficult to deal with” and “abuse,” or there’s something else going on in your relationship beyond them just not trusting you easily. A difficulty or inability to managing emotions is also a symptom of certain traumas like PTSD so putting the onus on someone you know has this difficulty like that is in really poor taste and shows a lack of understanding.
No one is responsible for your reaction to your emotions except for yourself. If your issues cause you to treat your partner poorly, it’s on you to address them.
Like I said at the beginning, having a reason for mistreating your partner doesn’t make it acceptable.