• kakes@sh.itjust.works
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    5 months ago

    I had a shitty childhood, was miserable in my teens, was possibly even more miserable through my 20s. When I was 16 I told myself if I was still as miserable by 30 I would consider ending it there.

    Fortunately around 30, after my low point of the pandemic, is where things started to actually fall into place for me - both in terms of external factors and, slowly, internal monologue.

    While I still have a lot of mental holdovers from all that time spent in a depressed state, I would generally say I’m sustainably “happy” these days. Something I genuinely thought I would never reach.

    To anyone in a bad place right now, just know that if you stick it out, life actually can be surprisingly worthwhile.

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      My dad always told me that life begins at 30.

      I turn 40 this year, and I really agree with him. The first three decades were just awkwardly fumbling around and getting nothing done because I was a dumbass. The last ten years I really got it together and I feel comfortable with myself for the first time ever.

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      5 months ago

      I was similar but I didn’t compare my life to others, so kind of just came to learn that this is normal life. I found it very beautiful and humbling. I treasure the days of being homeless and alone, so when I need to I just disappear by myself off into the wilderness somewhere for a few days. It feels safe and like home. I reflect on my stoicism and smile about knowing how much I can handle and how little in control I really am. Life is so cool like that.

      I see a post like OP’s and it’s just some unappreciative brat that’s never tried to see beauty in life. They just miss being looked after by someone else.

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        5 months ago

        Yeesh that seems a bit harsh…

        You might want to use some of that self-reflection to examine why you feel that way about someone when you don’t know what kind of life they’ve had.

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          They literally said their biggest concern in life was a history quiz… They are literally describing their life for the reader.

          I don’t think character length would fit the entire biography, so they’ve provided the important parts.