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Cake day: June 29th, 2023

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  • People say that… And yet, in middle school they did a hearing screening, and said I had reduced hearing. I told my mom “that’s crazy, my hearing is incredible, I just had earwax in my ears”. We went to the doctor anyways, the PA said she couldn’t see any earwax even though I could hear it moving around when she put the scope in my ear

    I was adamant I just needed to clean my ears, so my mom grabbed some qtips from the exam room when the PA left, I cleaned my ears, and I passed the test perfectly

    In my 30s I can still hear those “teen repellants” that whine at a pitch most lose in their early 20s. People look at me weird when I say I heard someone’s voice on the wind, and yet I can pinpoint individuals talking normally within a half a mile in a forest

    I don’t use qtips anymore, I use a metal loop to clean my ears, but for me it’s most certainly necessary to clean them somehow



  • Reading through all of it, it’s exactly as I thought it was, but I kept the complexity out

    You cannot give jury instructions related to jury nullification. The judge can’t get anywhere near the topic, and lawyers cannot directly argue the jury should acquit based on the law being unjust (they can certainly imply it though)

    You cannot have already decided your verdict before the case, including based on the law involved. This is generally a moot point, because jury selection should catch this. If it doesn’t and you didn’t lie, then that’s on the judge

    So, they will never tell you that you have this power as a juror. But you do, in all cases

    The only complicated part is on the part of the judge and the defense






  • That’s a bit much… It’s just not possible to guarantee that as a developer

    Software is a living thing, and anything useful is made up of layer after layer of ever shifting sand. We do our best, but we are all at the mercy of our dependencies. There are trade-offs, there are bugs we can do nothing about, and sometimes moving forward means dropping support for platforms that are no longer “cheap” enough to afford while also working on the game

    I love this though. I also like the idea of requiring access to earlier builds.

    These mitigate anti consumer practices - dropping support for a platform is more likely to be a technical trade-off or unintentional consequence though


  • For me it was a mix of that, plus “great, so you’re going to close everything maybe was using, sometimes restart some of it, and everything is going to be on the wrong screen and virtual desktop. Now that I’ve spent several minutes getting back to where I was yesterday, let’s see what garbage I don’t want that you’ve added”

    Linux has its own inconveniences, but I don’t regret the switch… It gets better every day while windows gets worse


  • Let me tell you a few secrets

    First, anger uses up social energy. They get it back from your response to them… If you don’t let them read any emotion from you, they’ll tire themselves out very quickly.

    You just have to control your body language, keep your tone calm, and let them talk. Make it clear you’re paying attention to them, but otherwise give them nothing

    You don’t have to listen to what they say, they’re just making angry human noises. Just listen to their tone, it’ll rise and fall in energy cyclically until they run out of energy

    When they stop talking, just give them a few moments of silence so they can feel embarrassed, then disregard their little temper tantrum and progress the conversation like it never happened, focusing on solutions

    And that’s the second secret - you can prompt-break a human. In every interaction, humans take on roles. Customer-employee, public official-citizen, manager-worker… Humans naturally fall into roles

    You can pull a human out of their role by not playing your part, and in that moment of confusion you can recontectualize the interaction

    In this case, you change the conversation roles from “you being mad at me” to “I’m the expert helping you fix your problem”

    Obviously, if you just say that, people will generally just get more upset. But if you pull them off balance and start acting a new role, they’ll take on the counterpart role

    It’s all third path conflict resolution, it’s honestly harder to explain then it is to do it


  • I started by adjusting my expectations for myself

    It’s impossible for me to become carbon neutral at this point in time - I might be able to survive in the woods, but without buying the land I’d eventually get arrested, and my homestead torn down.

    So it’s a matter of harm reduction, or balancing the scales in the right direction. So I made a goal - I want to build a solarpunk community out in the mountains somewhere. I also want to spread good ideas, while reducing bad ones

    I will never achieve either if I’m not in a good physical and mental state. So I forgive myself for indulging when I need to

    Do what you can when you can. If you die and cut your footprint to zero, you won’t save the world… So at least attempt something that could help

    But most of all, my guiding mantra is “if everyone in the world was like me, it would be a utopia”. Be the kind of person who could be part of the world you dream of