Completely understand, if you don’t want to leave you shouldn’t have to! Home is a powerful thing. I hope you can be successful and happy where you are, with community and kindness around you and that your parents respect your decision.

Haha, I feel that, I’ve lived in a few places that had “aspirational DIY” previous owners. I think there is a difference between a house where someone died and one where they were murdered though, for a lot of folks. One is just a natural part of the life cycle, the other is a lot more haunted, you know?

I have a friend who immigrated to the US, and then moved to Canada and became a citizen there. He likes it much better, he never wants to come back to the US haha. Maybe you could get your parents to switch to Canada or somewhere else instead if they don’t want to give up on this? I live in the US and I personally cannot recommend immigrating here, especially right now.

The (not) secret is that the thing they’re getting done is mining you for data. :D

But if you do everything yourself then how will they steal your data? :(

Right, I had a friend who had a cop show up to their house because… their grass was too long. Absolutely unhinged.

And they wonder why so many of their kids have fucked right off and joined the opposition. It’d be funny if it wasn’t such a mess.