25 y/o programmer from Germany

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Cake day: July 1st, 2023

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  • My (maybe controversial) theory is that software engineering is a deeply creative and self-expressive field, more closely related to art and literature than to the “hard” sciences. But it has the clear upside that it isn’t stigmatized like Art & Literature, so getting into it isn’t met with the same amount of scrutiny & criticism, especially for people who present in a masculine way.






  • What can you do to mitigate that fear? You obviously know there’s some irrationality to it, but that doesn’t mean that it would be invalid to try and dampen some of those concerns ^^

    How about getting a little fire extinguisher for your kitchen? I’m confident with cooking, but I still always have one on hand just in case!

    You can also try and experiment with what exactly your boundaries are. Are you comfortable making something like a soup/stew? Does it bother you to bake something? That might be more than enough for the start, and once you get comfortable with that you might even naturally want to level up to scarier stuff.

    When it comes to fears, the only way to lose is not to try. Because every instance of avoiding something you’re afraid of reinforces that fear by making you think that you successfully avoided a scary situation. Even if absolutely nothing would have happened otherwise.

    Good luck!











  • Not admitting to any sort of experience here, but if any aspiring artists come across this:

    Get yourself a manager. Even if you’re not that popular yet, just have a friend handle the communication, commission slot scheduling and payment processing for you. Because no matter how much passion you go into the job with, eventually you will fall into playing online therapist for a guy with a name like “VirusDog24” whose wife is pretty unhappy with the amount of money he keeps spending on commissions and who keeps asking for way too many alt versions. But you kinda have to keep him happy because he does pay so well and comes back all the time due to some weird parasocial attachment.

    No matter how good the pay is, stuff like that can really pull the fun out of a hobby, hypothetically.