Ars is weirdly pro-windows sometimes , in the comments. I don’t read them as much as I used to.

I don’t know if it’s like different learning styles or what but some people just need to have a whole ass call. I’m like, I’ll just write you a nice message you can refer back to. Nope.

I think I read that some WW2 Nazi wanted to be killed by firing squad after Nuremberg, but they told him no. Firing squads are for soldiers. Hanging is for criminals, so he would hang.

I hope this is foreshadowing for the trump regime being executed as war criminals.

Honestly that’s much more respectable. Someone who says “Yeah, I had a hamburger at the bbq. I know eating meat is bad for lots of reasons, but it was already there, and I can’t always live my ideals” is so, so, so much better than “No fuck you meat is good for the environment actually I’m a good person shut up”

yeah, clearly a random stranger on the internet knows more about my own life and my own life experiences than I do.

You sound absolutely delusional, so, yeah maybe.

It’s the same story in any major USA coastal city.

I don’t know what city you’re in, but the median income in NYC is like $85k and there is a wide range of people here.

I make 150K a year, own a modest condo, and I am considered ‘poor’ because the expected income for a desirable man is 300-500K a year.

Don’t try to date the kind of person who expects $400k/year? In all my years of dating I don’t think I’ve ever met someone with that expectation, and that’s probably for the best.

A. Fuck this guy. He shouldn’t have a license, not be entrusted with policing

B. That car is too big for NYC.

So, to clarify, veganism was a separate example of things that cause a strong emotional reaction.

Second of all, I don’t really believe you but I don’t especially care.

The attractive people involved are already coupled.

It is also extremely implausible that this is 100% true. Unless you were going to events that select for couples, you’re going to find a mix of relationship states.

physical fitness has nothing to do with attractiveness. lots of unattractive people are super fit, and lots of attractive people are unfit.

People generally find healthiness attractive. Fitness is correlated with healthiness, and this somewhat correlated with attractiveness. Tastes differ. But generally, people are not going to find “can’t run up the stairs without wheezing” more attractive than “can run”

I live in a city full of wealthy entitled people, who think they are superior to others by birthright and what college they went to, and who won’t talk to you if you don’t work for a fortune 500 company.

Very few cities are so homogeneous. Don’t dox yourself but what do you feel comfortable sharing about what city this is? I find it extremely unlikely that the entire city is full of people who only talk to fortune 500 people. Do all the wait staff and service workers exist in silence and depart the city at dusk?

Sounds like you’re putting up barriers blocking your own success, mostly.

I’ve never met an attractive woman in any meetup, sports even, hobby, or volunteering thing I have ever done.

This sounds extremely implausible. Those activities should have a wide, fairly random, selection of attractiveness. Sports might favor people more physically fit, which is positively correlated with common ideas of attractiveness.

Maybe you’re using some non-standard or idiosyncratic standard of attractive?

I get absolutely nothing except the occasional random weirdo woman who approaches me at a bar and starts telling me what stupid jerk I am for reading books or having a cat

On the other hand, maybe you live in hell?

This is the best answer.

The receptionist really doesn’t care. You’re one of dozens of people they see every day. They’re not going to remember or care if you ask for help.

Many people have as an immutable axiom “I am a good person”

When you suggest they are doing something bad, like contributing to climate change, this clashes with that axiom.

That clash causes discomfort. Most people are, frankly, lazy cowards. They could accept that they are not being a good person all the time, and update their axiom. But that’s scary and feels bad. They could also try to do something about climate change (or whatever the topic is. see also: veganism), but that’s also hard. It’s far easier to just lash out at the source of discomfort.

The oatmeal did a comic on basically this topic: https://theoatmeal.com/comics/believe

I feel like if you’re not going to use an app, you should focus on real life. Join meetups. Join a local sports team. Posting on a forum isn’t going to be more effective than that.

It’s hard to make a full judgment without knowing more details but “the pay is good and it’s easy” isn’t really a compelling justification for “and I help evil manifest in the world”.

I also commented there by accident once because I didn’t read the community name. They politely asked me to refrain from doing so. I was embarrassed, and have been more careful.

Apparently for some people this is unacceptable.

I knew a guy who went to work for palantir a bunch of years ago. Was always friendly at work. I asked him “but what’re you going to do if they do bad stuff, like spying on people?”

He just shrugged. Didn’t care. The money was good.

I don’t know if this alone is proof that’s a bad person, but I think it precludes him from being a good one.

Do you think they’re intentionally trying to weaken the US, or just stupid?

There are several problems.

One. Wotc are seeking players who aren’t paying attention and have no head for rules. They don’t want complexity.

Two, it’s bad to make one class have a ton of complexity while others stay at “I move and attack”, and they really don’t seem to want to give other classes more complex options.

DND isn’t designed well. It’s the Harry Potter of RPGs. Also the JavaScript.

I saw batboy in Brooklyn and it was a great show.

I don’t see a reason not to teach more about personal finance. How interest works. Consequences for missing payments. I knew a guy that when he was 18 just maxed out several credit cards to buy fun stuff. He got out of that hole eventually, but it was a rough couple years.

I think there’s an underlying problem that I don’t know if you can just teach people, but I think people need to be better at delayed gratification and thinking about consequences. Like that old friend of mine, even if he knew that the credit card debt was going to be more expensive long term, he wanted the tv and stereo now. I don’t know if you can teach that.

And, even if you could, it’s fucked up that people who are poor through little fault of their own are told to just live with less, while people born into wealth can squander it.

So, at the end of this tangent, we should have mechanisms so the floor is high enough people can still have a decent life, and the ceiling is low enough that no one has four mansions.