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Cake day: June 22nd, 2023

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  • If you already know where a pressurized liquid magma pool is, maybe. Though if it’s not pressurized enough you might just get the release of some weird fumes and vapors. Or the lava might rise a little then settle back to a standard hight rather than errupting.

    If you dont have a pool of lava to aim for about the earth mantle, then probably not :( By the time you get deep enough into the earth to hit magma, the hole would collapse due to pressure and pretty much any modern drill would be soft due to the heat.

    Heres a discussion about this that happened else where on the interwebs.



  • It was during a class discussion, definetly thoughtless on my part. She didnt shame me, just explained how she felt about it. It was an english course so exploring the connotations of language was pretty typical.

    I think of it as a moment that really thought me about the complexities of every day language & the impact of cultural tropes (like the light good, dark bad concept).

    Idk lol I’m not trying to change your mind, I think you can use the phrase & will probably never get any push back for it. I guess this is mostly an explination why I used that example in the way above comment. For me, it’s a charged phrase that can be percieved as derogatory.



  • Definetly your choice to make.

    I don’t mostly because I have a ‘replays in the middle of the night’ memory of using it in conversation with a black woman & she let me know exactly how it made her feel. Idk sometimes offense isn’t about history it’s just about how the random person next to you feels & the phrase isn’t so important to me that I can’t express the same thing in different words.


  • This term is trickier since it is entangled with Europe’s long standing use of blackness to denote wrongness. & that whole dichotomy of good=white bad=black is an often talked about source of controversy in literature.

    As the wiki says “It means a situation in which somebody accuses someone else of a fault which the accuser shares”. In the case of the quote the fault is being black. Both pot and kettle are black.

    Here is an article I found that did a good job delving into the topic. They end up agreeing the term is okay to use but also offer some alternative phrases that side step the potentially offensive phrasing. My fav was, “the wifi calling the narrator unreliable”.


  • Ah co-parenting with an ex can be super tricky. It sounds like at least a half win though, you aren’t in the same house any more :) congrats on the break up, I know getting out of toxic relationships takes it’s toll

    & I get that the word is part of your vocabulary, I can’t change that, just encourage some reflection. It’s a term that’s been used against me so I’m perticularly sensitive to it. Here is a link to an article in case you or someone else is interested in the history of the term.



  • I get that your anger probably comes from the frustration of a bad relationship. I also want to encourage you not to use bigoted terms. Just refering to them as your ex’s family, or ex’s fucked up family would have gotten a similar message across.

    It really undermines your point, draws focus away from what youre trying communicate, & makes you look like a biased and unreliable narrator.

    I hope that ex is out of your life & you’re in a happier place now.