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Cake day: December 27th, 2025

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  • So basically, you’re just trying to find any excuse to continue using it.

    “Because I want to” is a fine answer, even if it comes from a source of indifference.

    No reason you can give will be rational enough to make an argument to continue using Facebook. And; “Facebook is going to make money no matter what” is probably up there with the dumbest of them all.

    As far as protesting for us-

    It’s a way to join together and have a unified voice and the feeling of solidarity. Anyone thinking that minds will change as a result of it is foolish. However, for those on the fence- it’s a visible and audible presentation of plight at determination.

    Which is FAR more successful than Facebook memes.


  • The problem here is the thinking that protesting has any effect on them whatsoever.

    Protesting is for us. Not them. You cannot speak truth to corruption. They don’t care and aren’t listening. If you think you’re changing their minds, you need to change how you’re thinking- because they don’t mind how they think.

    So staying on that platform only serves to generate more revenue for them. Which leads to my original point:

    If you still have a Facebook account- you’re supporting their bullshit.



  • My best tool in coping with grief, as a neurodivergent that has had a lifetime of difficulty in dealing with/understanding loss- has been in the acceptance that I was never going to avoid this.

    What I mean is, this was something that was going to happen eventually. They could not have outrun it, they could not have “healthed” their way around it. It WILL happen. And accepting this goes a long way to help to resolve the constant “what could I have done differently” part.

    What does this have to do with nightmares? I’m getting to that.

    Basically, Grief comes in two flavors;

    There’s the “selfish” part, which is the idea that YOU won’t ever get to be with them again- and how it hurts that YOU will now forever have a massive hole in YOUR life that get once filled, that they will never have any new interactions with YOU

    And then there’s the “selfless” part, which is sadness and empathy for THEIR pain, and the worry that THEY were suffering, that THEY will never have any new reactions with you.

    When these two things mix together- from my experience, the selfish one is always the loudest. It’s the one that drives the knives into my heat.

    … and it’s the one that brings the nightmares.

    And nightmares oftentimes are a subconscious manifestation of guilt.

    Once you come to terms with the fact that this was something that was always going to happen, it gets easier to work through the pain and come to a place of peace. Just know that the love you had for her remains untouched and timeless.

    The nightmares will eventually cease, and her all of your memories of her will bring warmth and comfort.

    Just hang in there and try and be good to yourself through this.

    ❤️