Madlaine

Makes sense, thanks for the (late) explanation xD

That’s survivorship bias.

There was a time when humans built wineries everywhere and hoped to attract vineyards.

Nowadays, you only see those that attracted one, as all other wineries gave up centuries ago

Surprise second round; hope you listened in the first one

Not OP, but yeah…

There are a few mental/neurological conditions that lead to a big adversion against ordinary recurring tasks.

(In my case it’s PDA; but it’s something that I see across multiple neurodivergent spectrums, as well as in people with depression)

Frog or foe?

Thanks for the extensive response :)

Thanks for the fast response :)

What difference makes a year or two

Can I get a (few) title(s), please?

I’ve read (only) half of the disc-world books, but I don’t know what you’re referencing.

And check if the lockpickinglawyer already tested said trigger lock.

It’s not my area of expertise; but the ones he tested were far from safe.

But yeah I’m ~235lbs/106kg guy, and I don’t like how I look most days in the mirror in a boring t-shirt and shorts, let alone trying to be desirable, so I’m kinda setting myself up mentally for disappointment. We shall see.

Sounds like me a year ago xD

Try find something that suits your figure; fem clothes can be quite good at camouflaging and distracting from problematic areas if one gets the right stuff.

And it drastically boosts self image when you found clothes you feel comfortable in, even if only in certain situations.

And my personal experience in case you don’t like your face (I didn’t, but I’ve got gender-related dysphoria in that regard): these femboy-cat-face-masks; wear them if you try out or take pictures in dresses. Allows you to focus on the clothes instead your face. After you found clothes you like with that mask on, you might take a look at some basic makeup. Nothing too fancy, but a bit of foundation, powder, minimalistic eyeshadow and mascara can do wonders.

But essentially: Try it! Do yourself a favor and try it! I wish I would have given in sooner instead of always thinking “nah, won’t suit me anyway and I will just look like a dude in a dress”. Wearing stuff like that played a huge part in realizing who I am.

(And it gave me a reason to loose some weight. 103kg->88kg since December)

And obviously: Should you find out in the end that fem clothes are just not your thing; that’s fine as well! But if the idea was already in your head: try it ^-

Just do it.

There are many large people that look beautiful. You have to search for the right clothes.

I assume from your comment that you’re maybe a bit chubby; that’s no shame. Many chubby people look wonderful in fem clothes.

You maybe should go for something more comfortable than the sexy secretary look, but (unless your suuuuper overweight) there will be something that’s suiting your figure. Just google some guides for transfeminine clothing and try some stuff. Many of us wanna wear feminine clothing while having similar issues. A love for food is not depending on the gender ;)

Btw: My personal recommendation are long black skirts from the steampunk/goth/pseudo-victorian niches. They often have enough accessories and other highlights to distract; and they don’t look all that bad if one is a bit larger

This is a meme about trans women, please don’t conflate us with femboys.

Sounds for me like:

“femboys exist, but we are not the same”; not “femboys do not exist. They’re just in denial”

(and I do agree with the first; not with the second)

Baby-Transfem here, started HRT literally last week:

Until last friday I was suicidal, constantly depressed and full of self-hate I couldn’t understand.

Since I got my first dose estrogen my mental health drastically improved (as did some other hormone-related body functions that only need the hormones in my blood but not necessarily a prolonged exposure).

I learned from my doc that some transpersons have a brain structure of their non-assigned sex and then show exactly my pattern of relief; meaning my brain was actually born to be estrogen- instead of testosterone-dominated. (which seems to be based on the hormones oned mom exposed one during 3-4th and 10-14th week of infancy. One periods influences the gender of the brain, the other the sex of the general body)

So while I see where you are coming from, and I heavily prepare myself for all the sexism that will probably bring me back to earth as soon as I visually feminize; I can attest that HRT improved both drastically for me (for now)

(un)fortunately HRT does not remove your beard ;)

Wanna be a beautiful girl with a wonderful shiny beard?

There is a chance!

(Altho having specific physical goals in mind on HRT is more a gamble; and obviously (unfortunately, but it is what it is) a beard on a girl will often lead to weird looks and remarks.)

In another comment you clearly stated that femboys are not the same thing as trans.

And now you want to push the transfem label onto a non-afab person just because they admit to wear gender-non-conforming clothes?

Not necessarily

You could twist the rules.

Instead of hearing “hit” you get handed the shot you just hit

all these new names for old mechanics.

Back in my time we called it “multi-classing”

I don’t see the connection?

I mean, the answer is actually yes (if I understand correctly that once a single question mark led to me being laid) , but I don’t understand how you come up with the question

When I was younger (and it wasn’t about drinking but smoking):

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