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Cake day: June 4th, 2025

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  • From personal experience knowing someone who posted that stuff just to get a reaction out of people: he was beat by his dad (who then divorced his mom because she produced “that”) and was severely bullied in high school. It’s not an excuse, he just desperately wanted the world to feel as miserable as he did.

    He showed me a video of someone being shot in the head once. Mind you, I’m the kind of person that breaks down when I accidentally run over an animal or hear a bird splat on a high-rise window. He thought it was okay to show me without my consent because the guy lived, but didn’t understand that violence, pain, and disfigurement are just as traumatizing as death.

    He diagnosed himself with Anti-social PD while taking a psychology class, take that however you wish


  • This is going to sound crazy, but I’ve recently learned that sensory overload triggers my migraines. I have that xppen and don’t use it because it isn’t as smooth as my iPad. It causes more sensory input to my brain, if that makes sense.

    Your Bluetooth headphones might be heavier than others or exerting some pressure on you that is triggering your headaches. My ANC headphones do that to me because they need a tight seal around my ears to properly block out sound.








  • I don’t think what I said contradicts what you said. I live in north central Montana. I just didn’t know the bison were classified as livestock, that’s all :)

    What I’ve seen is ranchers pushing for more time and more herd allowance on public lands while western ecologists and native ecologists fight to restore the balance. It’s not just cows that people are fighting over. The ranchers hands also been pushing for beaver culls because they can cause hazards for the cattle. But culling the beavers and increasing the herd sizes has had cascading effects on ecosystems, especially regarding excess nitrogen in our waterways. MSU-N did a multi-year study on Beaver Creek and held a lecture on the results, and they invited the local park council to sit in (hoping they’d learn something). It visibly upset the ranchers, one even tried to argue with the professor that presented the data. To them it’s all an assault on their livelihood.

    I’m not even going to go into the effects their grass mixes have been having. It’s all a hot fucking mess, and I think what American Prairie is doing is admirable



  • Wash the bands with warm soapy water, and you can try using alcohol to remove the oils on your legs to see if that helps. You can use thin plastic (I just save the bag I get them in) to keep the bands apart and free of lint while stored. I don’t shave, and haven’t had an issue with fine hairs reducing the staying power of the bands, but you may have more dense hair than I do

    It could also be that they are simply too wide to stay on you, and this is what I’d bet is happening to you. They stretch a little while warm from body heat, and if it’s too wide there’s very little room to stretch before falling off. Generalized women’s sizes drive me nuts, a large in that brand would fit me at 5’3 and I highly doubt you and I share a thigh size. So my recommendation is that you try a brand for tall women, or at least find one that advertises a thigh measurement.



  • I can’t meditate in the way that everyone describes. I have a similar combination of brain traits, so I’ll share what helps me. One small caveat, I also have c-ptsd and my experience is that even my choice for meditation analog isn’t going to be helpful until you’re able to use therapeutic skills to protect yourself (like acknowledgment and redirection).

    I have been told this counts as a “ritual” which might give you a keyword to find something for yourself that you’d prefer. But what I do is I make tea or coffee in a methodical and intentional way. Everything from choosing my beans, tea or herbal ingredients to the method of brewing gives me a chance to center myself and work out things that may be troubling me. I use a hand grinder and gooseneck kettle to make pour-over coffee. I harvest my own herbs or put together my own blend for tea and use a blooming pot. It’s very sense-driven but routine, which is important for my ADHD and autism to sit happily together for a few minutes.

    Some people go for a run and find that meditative, I can see it because I feel similarly when I go for a hike to collect plant specimens. Really, with ADHD you may find that getting your body senses involved (yes even with primary inattentive) helps your brain loosen up and hit that meditative point. I don’t think I’ve ever had a silent brain, and I think that’s a sticking point for a lot of people when it comes to meditation. You can still have the benefits with a loud brain :)


  • My grandmother fully believed in sasquatch as a species, with subspecies in various environments. The ones where she grew up in the northeast were apparently larger, less hairy and more fat than the ones in the swamps where I grew up. To this day I still think she had just seen hunters, but she knew what she saw lol