Online education isn’t exactly great for people with poor self control or focus. At best, online education is good for lectures, but not much else (aside from if commuting or finding a place close by to live is a pain, then I suppose online education may be a tradeoff in that regard).
Everything else is generally better in person. Stuff like group projects and whatnot cannot be done online.
Since COVID, I’ve found that the growth of technology isn’t exactly great for the learning experience. Now a lot of educational work takes place through the distraction vortex (computers and phones are very tempting to do something else instead). Pre-pandemic when education was more paper and pencil based, it is much easier to focus. At “best”, you can only daydream or whatnot. Other people would not be as tucked to their phones and laptops like it is since the pandemic.
In a way, online education would also be harmful in reducing social cohesion as well if it becomes the default mainstream, so it’s not just limited in excluding certain neurodiverse populations from access to education. Online education isn’t exactly more “efficent”.
Australia and NZ also exist, those countries are likely fine in that no major global trade routes go through there (unlike the Arctic), so that mitigates the risk of war over there. Those I’ve read somewhere on r/IWantOut that some countries like Australia have a list of medical conditions that would mean one is not allowed to emigrate there.
England/the UK I haven’t read much, but that’s about as far as one can go, aside from Canada; to go elsewhere means learning a new language is outright required.
I’m in a similar position as OP, and trying to leave with someone else would be even more trickier. Even Canada is very limited in how many family members/friends/relatives that one can sponsor or emigrate with.
I just hope any one country will start allowing asylum seekers to get out before it’s too late, but I won’t hold my breath given that everywhere in the developed world seems to have a housing crisis all at once.