A strawman argument is still a strawman even if there was no malicious intent and it was made through ignorance of making a proper argument.

The phrasing isn’t just poor, though, it has a connotation/implication that can only be learned through social context. There’s absolutely aggressive intention with the phrasing. At the very least a “gotcha” attempt. Maybe they were raised in that environment and thus are uneducated and generally antagonistic, but then Hanlon’s Razor would extend to any acts of hate.

I always like to ask “are you being judgemental or curious?” (Thanks, Ted Lasso)