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People can also be confidently wrong.
It’s my self-admitted worst trait. Not that I’m wrong on purpose or out of malice or anything. But when I think I know the answer, I will often express it as if I know the answer.
It’s a terrible personality trait and I’ve been trying to work on it by forcing myself to use the words “I think…” before saying anything.
However…as someone in a leadership role, I also believe that sometimes, when there is no black-or-white answer, it’s more important to be confident than to be right so as to not undermine the teams confidence in your leadership/decision making. Captain Picard taught me that.
Oh man if I found out my manager had that mentality I’d be second-guessing literally everything they say forever. I would much rather someone say “I don’t know, but that’s a good question. I’ll find out for you” than give me the wrong information confidently.
I already struggle with respecting authority figures who clearly don’t know what they are doing and thus have no actual basis for their authority, so yeah that’d be a ticking time bomb.
Please try to move away from doing that. It’s genuinely not great for your reports, only for you to put in less effort.
I think maybe I worded that wrong.
I don’t mean in terms of giving answers to questions. I mean in terms of decision making. When facing a decision with two equal possible outcomes, it’s more important to be decisive than to be wishy washy.
“Hey boss. For this project we can either continue doing “x” or we can shift over to doing “y”. What should be do?” In those types of situations it’s more important to make a decision and be confident in your decision. If you second guess, they’re going to second guess.
In the same boat here! Godspeed in your efforts to work on it - I’m fighting with the same trait myself. Dunno about you, but I often don’t even realize I’m doing it, it’s just how my language flows! 😓
I’ve said this so many times. Being a woman in a male dominated field is exhausting.
Yep or worse outright dangerous
Being a younger person (hell, I’m 42 and consider myself young in comparison) in a white old male dominated field is also exhausting. I stopped counting the times I warned my superiors of things that would happen if they don’t do X, and then they happened because why take a younger person seriously?
yeah whatever but i think actually the problem is that a male dominated field can be difficult for women to work in.
Is that not what I said?
it was a joke about women’s ideas getting dismissed and then repeated by men
Oh wow, maybe they shouldn’t have let us learn to read.
God I feel this.
People in public doing “business on their phone” are the worst.
For those that are Formula 1 fans, this reeks of “Toto, it’s called a motor race, OK? We went car racing.”
If I was trying to gather US trade secrets, I’d have a few spies on payroll just hanging around airport bars listening in on phone calls.
A few years ago I was sitting across from a guy at an airport and he was loudly buying skis for his son. Not only did I clearly hear the whole story of how his son just made the ski team and needed skis ASAP, I also heard his full credit card information.
The best half of a business conversation i ever heard was “look, the bottom line is this: give her £100,000 a year, give her a Porsche, give her her own office, give her a secretary, and she’ll bring in more than a million in profit every year.”
that’s crazy money in the uk and kinda middle class in the us. wild how similar and different the countries are
This was 10+ years ago now, too, so more then
Women love it whenever a women is right.
a women
Same here.
Sincerely, a man.
It’s funny I have you tagged as sexist. On and on it goes.
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I think, in this case, it’s that this woman was confident and assertive in ways that are usually acceptable for men, but that typically end with a woman being labeled a “removed”. At least that’s how I took it.
Plenty of women are confident and assertive and successful…maybe not you…
Or perhaps I know from firsthand experience.
And most guys are intimidated by a woman that is right. But when a woman is right she is right. But I’m guessing you probably never met a woman that’s right, correct?
Was raised by a woman who was always right, even when she wasn’t.
Later, in a group meeting, the man on the end of the phone announced her plan as though it was his own without acknowledging her at all.
I knew two men who would do that to me all the time 😡
It’s still ridiculously endemic. The guys doing a probably pat themselves on the back for being good guys and occasionally mentioning feminism like in one of Patrick Bateman’s empty speeches.
What would it have to be a man on the other side?
All the context is there.
