• FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    It’s kind of nice when people reveal themselves to be insufferable douchebags at the outset rather than wasting your time.

    • Rivalarrival@lemmy.today
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      1 year ago

      The last four songs I’ve listened to on YouTube are three pirate shanties and “We Know The Way” from the Moana soundtrack. I’m not answering this question either. :)

  • GustavoM@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    If someone does not take the least amount of effort to answer a simple question like that one … then he doesn’t care about you in the slightest.

    “But its a generic question!”

    Two words: common courtesy.

    • CarbonatedPastaSauce@lemmy.world
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      1 year ago

      People (guys usually) also answer like this when they are trying to tell you exactly what you want to hear so that you’ll sleep with them. They feel like if they give any wrong answer early on, they’ve lost their chance. It’s a very manipulative mindset. He was like a deer in the headlights, not knowing if any answer he gave would be the right answer since he doesn’t know her at all yet. So he stalls, hoping she’ll drop it.

      Or he might just be an idiot.

      Either way, drop them and move on to somebody who will be real with you.

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        1 year ago

        In other words, playing games, i.e trying to “tick her funne bone” so he gets someone else to play instead of himself. But what most of those guys fail to acknowledge is that “tickling her funne bone” takes time – it’s not a “free removed pass” of any sort that you “say it”, and she goes “WHOOAAA fuck me mister! Fuck me right NOW!”. That is not “acting tough” or smart, but acting like a douche.

      • AFK BRB Chocolate@lemmy.world
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        1 year ago

        Yeah, that was my thought as well. This is the type of person who is only going to say something of they think it will impress you. The second possibility is that they will share nothing of themselves, period. In either case, they don’t seem like good relationship material.

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        1 year ago

        They feel like if they give any wrong answer early on, they’ve lost their chance.

        To be fair, that’s usually correct. Women have their pick of men, generally. If a guy answers a band she doesn’t like, most likely she’ll move on.

        So guys lie and tell her everything she wants to hear. And then once they get their foot in the door, they can start telling the truth.

        This guy handled it very badly but I can see why he didn’t want to answer.

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          1 year ago

          Yeah I may not be a relationship expert but if I have to lie for an ice breaker not even a deep question just an ice breaker I don’t think that relation will work

  • AaronStC@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    This is so weird. The first response was somewhat acceptable if in a joking manner but then he quintuple downed.

  • Eochaid@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    Someone’s insecure about his Shakira collection.

    Seriously though, I’m guessing this guy either doesn’t like music at all (I’ve known a few and they act like this) or got made fun of a lot for his music tastes in high school. It’s a shame this guy is probably a walking insecurity.

    Which is a great reason to unmatch him and move on.

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      1 year ago

      I didn’t even know it was humanly possible to not like music at all. What were they like? Like their personalities? Did they seem sociopathic or were they generally “normal”?

  • Rob T Firefly@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    Something I was dearly hoping wouldn’t find its way over here from Reddit: screenshots of posts which erase the posters’ identity for no good reason.

    Giving proper credit for content is cool, kids.

  • hairinmybellybutt@lemmy.world
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    sometimes I wonder if the point of those apps are not to suggest having sex, but since normal conversations don’t work, I really don’t know anymore.

    oh yeah and by the way, we cannot talk to women in the street, it’s creepy.

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    1 year ago

    Kudos to you for demonstrating interest in getting to know whoever you cross on these platforms (a rarity these days…) 🙌🏽

    I relate to your discomfort. I usually unmatch or block such vibes bc the point of these apps is to date, which implies getting to know each other. If one is unwilling to put in the work (as minimal as it may seem), just spare folx who are interested in the above.

    So much has changed in the dating scene. Sometimes, I am asked why I am being nosy or psychoanalyzing them. 🙄 Dude, you’re on a dating app, right?

    P.S.: I respect boundaries, but such questions are essential in familiarizing oneself with someone.

    • Bazoogle@lemmy.world
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      1 year ago

      You use the term “you” a lot here. This is an old post, so you’re not going to be talking to the actual person that experienced this