I’m 20 and probably wouldn’t date anyone over 39 or under 18-19. If i date someone who is 18, they also can’t be barely 18, they have to have been 18 for a while so birthday is important if they’re 18.

my current girlfriend is 19 x3

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    +/- 5 years (I am in my 30s).

    And honestly (I will probably be killed for this) I have no problems with others having big age differences as long as the younger person is at least 21. It’s not like you are significantly more susceptible than later in your life and don’t know what you’re doing.

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    I’m 9 years older than my kid sister. We had an agreement, she doesn’t date anyone older than me and I don’t date anyone younger than her.

    We both married people in that range.

    Internet Creepieness Rule:

    Your age / 2 + 7 is the low end limit.

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      This.

      I strayed from this formula by 1 year once (I was 38, she was 25), and there was this strange generational gap where we just had completely different interests, we didn’t get each others’ references, and things fizzled pretty quickly.

      Anyone else I’ve dated has been within this formula and we’ve gotten a long quite well. If they’re below this number for you, or you’re below this number for them, even by a little bit, it’ll get weird and you’ll run out of things to talk about pretty quickly.

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        I’m 38 and can’t imagine dating a 26 year old. The woman I’m currently seeing is my same age and it’s great.

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    That is a strange way to say she’s 57…

    But anyway! Range varies wildly with age. 6 years is something you at least ponder at age 25, but will feel like “same age” around 50.

    My feeling based on what people seem to at least not care to even gossip lightly about: max 1 year at age 15. 5 years at 40. 10 years at age 60+.

    Wider ranges are not problematic, but gets into at least “interesting to talk about”. E.g. “They are 33 and 40! Huh! Good for them.”

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    [Error] to [Error]

    (Don’t want a relationship. I’ve seen first hand how my parents are miserable with each other, not looking forward to that shit)

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    It depends entirely on the person. Some people are intelligent, self possessed adults by the time they’re 20, other people are immature shitbags well into their old age. Age is a poor metric for evaluating compatibility.

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    Whatever-whatever. I don’t have any strict age limit, if you care to make your case I’ll listen. I’m not that busy.

    That being said I do have the most in common with women in their 30s, being in my 30s myself

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    I’ve always dated around ± 3-4 years. I usually didn’t get along with men who were a lot older or younger. My husband is one year and four month younger.

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        Eh, if you don’t care about burying your mate way ahead of yourself, go ahead. Just feels like that 5 years keeps you within range of not having to live with that grief too long for too long on the average.

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    If I were to date at the age of 42, I would not date anyone below the age of 39 or above the age of 46. I would prefer only a 4-year gap in either direction, as the number 4 feels right (very vibes and personal preference based reasoning).