The fediverse is such an interesting new human experiment (and I’m just saying this to you specifically since I don’t expect this comment to make it past the moderators either). I was going in expecting reddit except not morally bankrupt, yet what you find are numerous bubbles that their respective communities use to shield themselves from whatever it is that they (for whatever arguably rationalizable reason) cannot accept to penetrate the safe space.

I truly feel for the emotions OP experiences and has outlined. I was just trying to level with them from an outside perspective and it is truly sad that there seems to be absolutely no platform left on the internet (if there ever was one) where one can be guaranteed to find community that puts the commune and the upkeep of its unity before any agenda or collective emotional guidance.