To this day, she remembers the racing thoughts, the instant nausea, the hairs prickling up on her legs, the sweaty palms. She had shared a photograph of herself in her underwear with a boy she trusted and, very soon, it had been sent around the school and across her small home town, Aberystwyth, Wales. She became a local celebrity for all the wrong reasons. Younger kids would approach her laughing and ask for a hug. Members of the men’s football team saw it – and one showed someone who knew Davies’s nan, so that’s how her family found out.

Her book, No One Wants to See Your D*ck, takes a deep dive into the negatives. It covers Davies’s experiences in the digital world – that includes cyberflashing such as all those unsolicited dick pics – as well as the widespread use of her images on pornography sites, escort services, dating apps, sex chats (“Ready for Rape? Role play now!” with her picture alongside it). However, the book also shines a light on the dark online men’s spaces, what they’re saying, the “games” they’re playing. “I wanted to show the reality of what men are doing,” says Davies. “People will say: ‘It’s not all men’ and no, it isn’t, but it also isn’t a small number of weirdos on the dark web in their mum’s basements. These are forums with millions of members on mainstream sites such as Reddit, Discord and 4chan. These are men writing about their wives, their mums, their mate’s daughter, exchanging images, sharing women’s names, socials and contact details, and no one – not one man – is calling them out. They’re patting each other on the back.”

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      I think it’s odd that you left out the part explaining what these men aren’t getting called out by their peers for.

      These are men writing about their wives, their mums, their mate’s daughter, exchanging images, sharing women’s names, socials and contact details, and no one – not one man – is calling them out. They’re patting each other on the back.”

      Men who are doxxing and sharing revenge porn of women is not the same thing as men “looking to fuck” a woman. This is sick sociopathic behavior. It’s weird that you can’t tell the difference.

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        Yeah, I was being lazy and didn’t read the article :-|

        Sorry.

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      I’m a man and I am going to speak out against this. Sharing intimate photos without consent is disgusting

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      If this is information on forums, couldn’t posts calling Users behavior be removed and user banned?

      Also, men that aren’t up to that behavior probably aren’t coming across these areas in the first place.

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      That sentence was talking about revenge porn and doxxing. Men wouldn’t be “looking to fuck” someone they’re sharing revenge porn of.