so this one girl, i’ll call her ella (19f) is transphobic, homophobic

she lashes out a lot, exaggerates things, and cannot read social cues. however, she has autism and adhd and is mentally much younger.

she also gets mad when i call a trans man “he” and she says “SHE’S A GIRL EVEN THO SHE LOOKS LIKE A MAN LOL”

she says she got her views from her parents and refuses to change because “it’s the way i am”. for someone who was mentally 19, I’d cut contact, but she’s mentally a lot younger.

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    she also gets mad when i call a trans man “he” and says “SHE’S A GIRL EVEN THO SHE LOOKS LIKE A MAN LOL”

    Wait so you do this or she does this? I’m assuming it’s her?

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        she also gets mad when i call a trans man “he”

        You see this part right? This is why I’m asking

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          I don’t know if it is this you are confused about, but I have meet wonderful well-meaning people who simply got the terms confused and it would sound very similar to this, so just in case.

          Trans man = man and Trans Woman = woman

          So in this case OP calls the trans man he( which is correct ), and the other girl tells OP “she is a girl even though she looks like a man” while speaking of the trans guy (which is incorrect).

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            What? No the “I” part. They are talking about their coworker, but then they said that they themselves do this. You’re not even remotely close to what I’m talking about. I bolded “when I call” how is this not clear?

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          No i agree it’s poorly phrased. But I still understand it to mean she is the one spouting the transphobia between the tense of ‘says’ and context.