“So just do it” is a glaring one for me.

Simply because it is disregarding someone else’s thought processes and how their mind works. Where simply ‘just do it’ is not as easily and readily accomplished. This kind of advice is always uttered when one person is going on about how they’re tired of something and want to do something else. So this gets mentioned.

It could be a lot of reasons as to why, even if it is down to the obvious reasons. My valid reason a lot of the time is that I just don’t have the energy or will to just magically get myself to do something.

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    IDK, I think “just do it” is actually pretty reasonable advice, for the most part.

    Obviously, it depends — everything depends — but I feel like it applies to many aspects of life.

    Sometimes you’re scared or anxious about something needlessly, and it really is best to just go for it and figure it out later, no matter how much your brain tells you it’s terrible and not worth it.

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      it’s good advice, until someone’s asking “how?” then saying “you just do it” becomes useless as tits on a tomcat. cause I DON"T FUCKIGN KNOW WHAT “IT” YOU"RE REFERRING TO! THAT"S WHY I ASKED

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        Hahaha~

        It has a wide breadth of applications, but it is indeed relatively shallow when it comes to guidance… It’s best used when the advisee already has some idea of what to do and is struggling with something else.

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        THANK YOU!!! I replied to someone that replied to my comment trying to explain exactly that…

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      Yeah this thread just feels like an axe grinding session where people are taking a situation where someone gave them advice that maybe wasn’t applicable or good in that context and now they think it’s just useless at all times. That’s fine I get it vent away, but yeah lol

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      All advice is good advice in a certain situation. “Trust your gut”/“be skeptical”, “be careful”/“go for it!” all of these can be good or terrible advice for different people at different times.

      The problem with “just do it” is it’s often literally the first thing that everyone tries. If I want to do my homework or cook a healthy meal, it’d be pretty weird if I started off by trying to not do it. So, often when it’s given as advice it feels very insulting, because it feels like your being literally told “have you considered doing the thing your trying to do?”

      It can be shorthand for much better advice - “don’t think about the consequences or costs, just focus on this moment and the first step you need to take” or whatever, but when delivered to someone who is literally struggling to do something it often adds nothing. “be careful” is good advice if someone’s carelessly approaching a dangerous, delicate task, but is shitty, vacuous advice if someone is already being very careful. So telling someone to “just do it” suggests you think that they weren’t previously attempting to do it, and that can give offense.

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        I mean, sure, but isn’t that literally everything? Hugging someone is nice unless they don’t want to hug. Telling someone “don’t think about the consequences or costs, just focus on this moment and the first step you need to take” is good advice unless they need to focus on the consequences or costs, or they aren’t taking the first step, or… or… or… ad eternum.

        If your argument is that “just do it” is bad advice, then I flatly disagree. However, that doesn’t seem to be the case; rather, it seems you’re saying that “just do it” is advice that should be administered carefully and properly. While a fair assessment, that is also completely counter-productive as a point of discussion because I already said “just do it”'s efficacy is dependent on circumstance while describing a specific situation wherein it could be rightfully applied!!! DAMN IT!!

        Well, one thing actually:

        The problem with “just do it” is it’s often literally the first thing that everyone tries.

        Is it? It very much isn’t for me, for example. I usually think about what I’m going to do before I do it — I think a lot… —, and it’s not uncommon that I get in my head about this and that, when I should just do it. For people like me, and I know I’m not alone in this, “just do it” is a great piece of advice that I should listen to way more than I usually do. No, it’s not perfect; Yes, it can fall flat. Still, it’s useful.

        it’d be pretty weird if I started off by trying to not do it.

        Yes, but would it be that weird to be stuck in a loop of self-doubt while wanting to do it, which keeps you from actually doing it?


        In the spirit of “just do it,” and at risk to my goal of being a positive presence online, I’d like to point out that you used “your” several times when you should’ve used “you’re.” Now, I know you probably don’t care and are thinking that it’s a little rude that I’m pointing it out, but just in case you do care, I’d forward you here: https://www.merriam-webster.com/grammar/your-vs-youre-how-to-use-them-correctly

        I mean no offense. I’m not perfect and I like when people point out the small things I could improve so… There.