I have friends who are Afghan who have had arranged marriages so this led me to be curious to ask, why does this practice still persist into the 21st century?

  • silly goose meekah@lemmy.world
    101·
    6 months ago

    I mean, yeah, but what’s the point of calling something an arranged marriage when it’s actually just parents acting as an old school dating app

      • silly goose meekah@lemmy.world
        103·
        6 months ago

        But then it’s still just arranged dating at best. Maybe the parents look for someone who is interested in entering a marriage in the first place, but that doesn’t make it an arranged marriage IMO.

        • Devi@kbin.social
          11·
          6 months ago

          It’s not dating exactly, but there are dates involved. The parents pick someone that you’re intended to marry, they bring them round and go “here, we think you should marry this person”. You get chatting with them, go out for some dates, in the modern age you’re probably texting each other etc, but it’s not like western dating where you’re just seeing how it goes, you’re deciding if you want to marry.

          After a short while you would say ‘yup, this seems good’.

          • silly goose meekah@lemmy.world
            11·
            6 months ago

            I mean I’m aware that this isn’t like western dating but it’s still not an arranged marriage. Saying that this is an arranged marriage is like having your parents pick out a hairdresser and calling it a haircut.

          • silly goose meekah@lemmy.world
            62·
            6 months ago

            Yes, language is subjective, cool that you seem to be learning that today. So no argument as to why it would actually be an arranged marriage, despite the described scenario not necessarily ending in a marriage?

            • fine_sandy_bottom@discuss.tchncs.de
              34·
              6 months ago

              Sorry mate. You don’t seem very bright. If you look back through this comment thread you’re the only one talking about dating and whatever. I said it’s subjective several comments ago.

              • silly goose meekah@lemmy.world
                32·
                6 months ago

                Yes you did, and when you said that, you implied that “arranged marriage” could also mean getting help with dating. You never mentioned dating explicitly, but how else do you think your original comment should be interpreted?

                You’re getting personal now, which is a telltale sign for someone who has no arguments for the point they are trying to make.