I have a chicken that sometimes dances a little to Otyken.

She’s not inside me, unless you count being in my heart.

I’m not on my blahaj account, but I can copy/paste there if you’d prefer. Just seemed pointless when I use the same user name to switch over.

But I’m mainly giving some background to the whole matter, rather than primarily “voting” about defederation.

It’s interesting that nutomic wants to get all het up after asking for donations to lemmy development.

That’s largely why they’ve been so active in comments lately. They can’t seem to keep from expecting people to pay them as individuals the develop lemmy, while also not being willing to at least be clear about where they stand.

And that’s what the donation requests are about. They’re not bringing in enough to develop full time. And that’s an important thing, having full time developers on a project like this. What they don’t seem to get is that they’re not just asking us to pay for full time developers, they’re asking us to pay them. They aren’t figureheads or managers, so it isn’t some kind of collective where you can point to other members of the dev team and say “well, maybe those two are unpleasant, but at least the rest aren’t bigoted”

Which, afaik, dessalines has never publicly been bigoted. He can be a smug asshole sometimes, but so can I, so there’s only so much complaining I can do there. But nutomic is a different issue, and this screen shot perfectly encapsulates how.

Donations would go into both of their pockets for their work, and they do deserve to be paid for that. Even jerks get to make a living. But we all get the choice as to whether or not we’re a customer or not. Me? My double digit yearly open source budget is going to people that at least have the sense to have never shot their mouths off with bigoted bullshit. Lemmy is an amazing thing, and the world needs it. I just can’t directly support a bigot. I can’t, and won’t do it.

I wouldn’t hire on someone to fix my roof if they had a damn maga hat on, why would I give money to someone that is not only just as much of a bigot, but is also hyper authoritarian? I know hiring someone vs contributing to a project isn’t a 1:1 equivalency, but the principle is.

Donations to then also fund .ml. And if anyone wants to donate like that, it’s none of my business. It’s just important that it be known that you can’t donate granularly. You donate, .ml gets some operating costs covered, dessalines gets a chunk, and nutomic gets a chunk.

And that’s where this comes from. The discussion in the screen shot is fallout from that. Nutomic still holds the same views they always have, but wants people to ignore that when donating. Which is fine!

As far as defederation goes, all I can say is that, while I have had unpleasant runins with both of them, I’ve never been permanently banned from .ml, or any of its communities. Individual communities there can, and do, enforce anti-bigotry rules with no interference from admins. But, there are no specific instance rules regarding transphobia in particular.

Again, this is pretty much just added background for anyone that hasn’t the time to go digging for the context of the screen shots.

Nah, believe it or not, when fisting is done right, there’s no damage done. To the contrary, it is supposedly enjoyable.

Both vaginas and anuses are remarkably elastic and resilient. Once adequate lubrication is present, it’s just a matter of getting the relevant muscles to relax. While accidents can happen, and there’s always going to be people that don’t know or don’t care about doing things safely, the practice itself doesn’t have to be damaging. The folks that are enthusiasts about it aren’t setting out to damage their partners at all.

Mind you, sexual sadists exist, and that is not the same thing as people into bdsm, though some of the real sadists do use the bdsm community as a cover.

It’s this hole thing.

Sorry, had to do that bit, it popped in my head and wouldn’t be removed by anything less than a giant fist writing it out.

Back to serious though, it ain’t my thing at all, especially to try and be the receiver, which is a hard no. But, it isn’t a big deal either. I’ve fisted a partner before, at her request. Didn’t do any damage at all, and I have to wear xxl exam gloves and can palm a basketball. If I can get these ham hands of mine up a lady’s cooter without anything other than appreciative sounds, anyone could.

If I was a rich man, I’d hire someone to carry that thing around in their pocket and stay by my side at all times, waiting for when someone asks “anyone have a knife”

I’m trying to wrap my head around the taste and texture of this. I may end up trying it. I’ve done so with culinary monstrosities before, including cola pickled eggs, and marmite on bananas.

But I can’t see the taste being bad at all. Egg whites are as neutral a flavor as it gets. All you’re really going to taste is the pb&j. So it’s little different film spooning both up and eating it.

But the texture, that’s where I’m having difficulty. See, I’ve had some pb&j oddities before. Notably fried in a donut hole, on a dog milkbone, encased in chocolate, and between two pieces of bologna. That’s just a partial list. So when I say I’m not certain whether or not the texture would be a bad thing, that’s saying something.

I think it would be neutral in enjoyment. Nothing bad, but nothing worth repeating either. But it could be that the oiliness of the pb might make the egg slide around in an outputting way. And it could be akin to rum soaked raisins in peanut butter balls, which is amazing as long as you let the raisins dry well after having the rum plump them up. It’s basically a pb fudge with those chewy little bursts of spiced rum flavor and the sweet fruitiness of the raisins.

And that texture is delightful, to me.

So I’m up in the air on this one

Fuck, that’s so dark Stephen Hawking tried to write an equation for it.

Holy shit. I’m legit amazed and loving that fact

Rewatched stand by me.

I always forget how brilliant those kids were, and how amazing the direction and cinematography are. It’s a 10/10 movie

Ngl, I’ve always had a suspicion that part of the reason the extra blades happened was the satire.

Once the idea was introduced, half the marketing was done, and the association with laughter isn’t a bad thing. You let the joke fade, and the idea lingers. You see the product launch, and even if you recall exactly how absurd it was when you saw it on snl or whatever, it’s still a positive memory. The satire commercial acted as a real commercial before the product existed.

Obviously, there’s an upper limit to it, and I think they’ve hit it as no six blade heads have come out that I know of. But, being real, after 5 blades, all the satires jumped to unrealistic numbers and more extreme silliness. It was like the various comedy writers figured out that the various razor companies would be glad to slap one more on there, and sell it as an entirely new thing that needed a new handle as well. So they said (╯°□°）╯︵ ┻━┻ and went hard.

There used to be a video of the satire commercials followed by the eventual real ones. I couldn’t find it on YouTube, but I may just suck at searching there, or it could have gotten pulled. I dunno, but I remember the real commercials being way closer to the satire ones than I had thought when it happened.

I mean, that’s what I just answered.

Were evolved to be able to resist it until it gets bad enough we just drop and die. Drugs like that bypass that ability because they’re just a ton stronger, and in larger amounts

Your body and brain do try to shut down, but the supposed reason we can control it is that being able to would improve survival when endurance hunting, or escaping dangerous conditions.

To an extent, it does shut down, but only in microsleep, which may not even be perceptible, and won’t prevent an eventual collapse.

You’re asking at least two questions, three imo.

The first is the title question, which is a fairly obvious: not currently, and it’ll be a while before it’s realistic.

The second is about the balance of traits that makes someone acceptable as a candidate that could win.

The third is your husband in particular.

You did indeed list off some of the more salient traits that would factor in. If an openly gay man is gone to be elected the first time, there’s a high chance he’s going to be white, and at least pretend to be christian.

But your husband? Probably not. You mentioned a lot of things, but not public awareness or previous elected offices. Having not held office before isn’t a total fail, but being a complete unknown? Never happen in the modern age. There’s no way he’d even get the party nomination, much less win. That kind of thing would end up wrecking him if he was hetero at a presidential level. In congress? Yeah, doable. But not for president.

Eh, anonymity is great for some things, less so in others.

But burner emails are pretty much as anonymous as it gets on the fediverse. If you pick a random user name and cycle to a new account fairly often, you’re anonymous to other users. A VPN mostly anonymizes you from the instances.

Being real though, that’s kinda dickish to the instances because you’re wasting the tiny bit of resources used to create accounts. If you do it often enough to really anonymize, it adds up.

Really specific here, but font control.

Us folks with dyslexia in its various expressions have trouble with command line. If you can’t read a specific command, good luck ever getting comfortable with it. You can’t error check yourself, so until you build up memory, you’re kinda screwed if you can’t use the fonts that are available.

The mods do their job. I don’t know for sure which ones are and are not active, but reports get handled same day in every case where I’ve reported, or been reported. I’d have to check the mod log to see if there’s been recent activity in that regard, but don’t have interest in doing so when anyone can.

On my pen name account, I moderate two communities, and it would sometimes be months before I’d do anything on the account that would show up because those communities were very slow, and I’m subscribed to them on this account. No need to switch to that account when there’s no mod action needed, unless I want to post/comment on it, which is fairly infrequent.

Lemmy is way more forgiving of relaxed moderation.

Fwiw, you get that sweet, sweet upvote for a solid post, even though I have no idea how popular or unpopular it is. It’s not something I’ve seen discussed much at all. But you presented your opinion without any rage bait in it, and I dig the hell out of that.

However, I would argue that it’s about execution, not duration. Just like short stories serve a different role than novels or novellas, multi-arc episodes have a different purpose than a single arc episode.

Sometimes, when you’re writing, you get an idea. But it may not work as a long form piece. Very often, trying to stretch an idea into something long form ruins it.

When applied to an ongoing series (as opposed to a series where each episode stands alone to begin with), multi-arc episodes offer multiple benefits, but it has to be done well. Now, obviously, whether or not something is done well is subjective. So unless you have an example in mind, I’m going to stay generic.

The biggest benefit of sub plots and mini arcs is world building and character development. When you have mini arcs, they don’t have to follow a seasonal arc. They can show vignettes of the rest of the world, or history, or the inner workings of a characters mind, or an outside view of usual characters.

Now, you still have to execute. If the pacing is off, or the writing doesn’t flow right, or there’s difficulty for the actor/s presenting something atypical, or any number of possibilities, individual mini arcs can flop, as can the entire episode.

But you absolutely can create a full story that will/would only take up 10 minutes of screen time. There’s arguments to be made that any story can be fit into that, with the only question of how well it would translate. I don’t really think the results of cutting LOTR into a ten minute story would ever work well, as an example of the flaws of attempting it.

Ensemble shows tend to be more forgiving of the multi-arc format, because most shows of that nature are always going to have scenes and segments that aren’t the full cast to begin with. Something like Leverage is going to work better in that format than something like Sherlock. Leverage actually did several episodes with multiple arcs, to varying degrees of success.

So, I’d definitely disagree with the opinion as presented, with the exception where you state that it’s basically impossible to add depth to the arcs. In that regard, I definitely agree, but I’d also argue that not every story needs depth. Some stories would suffer from depth.

Kingsize carries up to something like 8x, though not for every single thing they have.

Pretty much every bariatric patient I ever had ended up shopping with them. Hell, some of the guys that would steroid up buy from them. They tend to have designs that are made for men with atypical proportions. Just sizing up a pattern doesn’t take care of that for everyone, you have to adjust how things drape, where they stretch, where seams are, etc.

But, a patient of mine that had cortisol sensitivity was able to find stuff that fit him fairly well, and he had a similar build to what the image you provided shows. Almost all belly, with everything else being proportional.

But, even with king size, a 69 inch waist is going to be difficult to shop for stuff that’s also going to fit everything else well. Like, shirts as a perfect example, there has to be extra fabric across the shoulders and chest in order for the shirt to not ride up constantly. So your chest area is damn near guaranteed to be looser than is ideal visually. Even with stretchier fabrics, there’s a limit to how much difference you can factor in to mass produced clothing.

Since you’re under medical care, chances are that you’ll drop a good bit over the next two years or so, assuming that your body responds to treatment well. So, in general, I’d say focus your budgeting on work clothes, whatever that may mean for you. Pick up enough to get you through a week of work, find someone local that can alter them for a better fit, and then expand your wardrobe slowly after that, and have things taken in as the belly decreases.

That’s also assuming budget would be a concern. If you’ve got the resources to just throw a few thousand at the issue every six months or so, that’s a different issue. I only mention it because the patients I had that dealt with this issue (or similar ones) tended to be elderly or disabled, or very limited in the amount of time they could work. So they ended up very often spending most of their budget on “public” clothing, then just rotating through stuff like sweatpants and t-shirts at home.

Also, focus on natural fabrics. There’s long term “annoyances” that come with even this specific form of obesity. One of them is skin irritation where clothes bind, and it’s pretty much inevitable that some binding occurs. I’d say that with this specific example, it is inevitable. Natural fabrics tend to irritate less in that regard, and also help wick moisture away from places where skin touches skin. That wicking can be vital as we head into summer months. So, anywhere that your body touches your body, like the groin, underarms, and the bottom of the belly when you sit, cotton is the go-to with specialty fabrics the second best choice. There’s blended fabrics that wick better than cotton, but they also tend to chafe more, so they aren’t top pick.

It sucks, but nobody other than king size is likely to have decent button up shirts from what I’ve seen. And you’re still going to run into the fit not being perfect when you get the clothing, it’ll just be better than regular brands that aren’t designed right for big men at all. So, definitely start looking for a place that alters clothing. Expect to pay maybe twenty bucks at the absolute minimum per item. You might run into a tiny place that goes lower, but the last time I had to take anything to be altered at all, it was 20 bucks, and that was just hemming some jeans.

Custom tailored clothes are indeed an option. Maybe the only real option i hif you need a suit. Even Rochester big & tall wouldn’t have anything cut right without altering, and they used to have the best suits for unusual bodies (the roided out dudes shopped there for suits, so it isn’t just obesity). But Rochester, you’d need to have a local store anyway, even if they did have something cut right, just because their best options weren’t ready to wear, they needed fitting.

But, there’s some good news with the button up shirt requirement. Because your exact situation where body changes clash with that mandate happens a lot, you’ll be able to pick pretty much any color and style you like. Stuff like t-shirts and polos or henleys, you tend to have less options in that regard, even with king size.

Ngl, I’m kinda out of date with some of this. While I have sizing issues myself, they’re different, so I haven’t shopped for your body type in a decade. That being said, kingsize has a habit of carrying the same basic items essentially forever. The first patient I had that used them was back in the numerous nineties, and the last catalog I saw a couple of years ago had pretty much the exact same items available, so I doubt that part of things would be different now.

But, hey, even if it isn’t clothing, if you need advice about dealing with some of the other hassles of a body change like that, holla. There’s little things that I’ve picked up over the years, and don’t mind sharing.

I don’t remember. When was this?

Now, once they embrace not having tracking and data mining in their vehicles, we’ll be getting somewhere

Oh, heck yeah! Elotes en vaso especially. It still needs the cotija or parm, but the yeast bumps it up.

Grits are the same; still needs actual cheese, but the yeast amplifies it. Popcorn, it can just go straight on!