Our therapist said that in general coping mechanisms are unhelpful in the long term and it is more useful to have coping strategies.
However, we understand, it’s hard being trans. We recommend seeking community and listening to some of their strategies, or merely just offloading emotions in places designed for that.
We do hope you will be okay and that you can find some solace that it does get easier, if not better.
Sure, we like to help and remind beings of helpful things :)
Am I in the wrong here?
No. It is okay to have boundaries around pretty much anything, even if it goes against what someone or somemany else usually does.
Appeal to nature is not a valid argument.
Stay safe and get tested regularly.
Make sure boundaries and consent are respected, even own :)
United Killers.
Thanks! We have been informed how to ask better since.
Hope you are doing well, and figure it out!
Surprise seriously wrong!
Yeah, the sentence structure could be better.
I wish pronouns weren’t related at all to gender
Yeah, in English they don’t really have to be. Pronouns can be used by anybody for any reason, whether they are a specific gender or not.
Edit: With their consent, of course.
Also Ruthanna Emrys in A Half-Built Garden has excellently diverse and interesting takes on pronouns!
I’ve had a situation the other day where I got scolded because in my comment I apparently omitted the existence of people who are plural.
If you are refering to us talking about non-humans, we apologise. We did not mean to come off as scolding you. If it was not us then that is very unfortunate and you deserve better.
Unlikely that’ll happen since most of the threadiverse developers are very strange about trans people.
Ooo, that’s good!
Sure!
Yes. We do, constantly. We have even been told that folks do not come to lemmy to pay attention to things like pronouns, dissapointingly.
We have our pronouns in our display name and in our profile, but apparently a lot of clients do not show display names nor can access profiles.
Why any would want to use clients missing such basic features is anybeing’s guess. However, we imagine it has something to do with what we have been told about why beings use lemmy.
I guess I’m gonna use “biological mother” for this one. I feel like it’s correct: she’s my mother by blood, no longer by bond, but, at least for me, there is no one else in place of her.
We have seen some use “unchosen mother”, as a counter to chosen family etc.
No person, being, entity etc is illegal. Especially not on stolen land.
Sorry that’s the case.
You do not need to apologise to us for being negative. 💜 We understand.
Hmm, we hope you can get some helpful drugs. However, we suggest seeking community offline and going out, that may help at least a little. We find our mood is improved when we do such things and have others around us to help or enjoy things with.