No, we’re with you.

They have a very limited range of what they care about and will ignore anything outside of that, which is harmful.

We left because they just do not care about anything beyond a certain type of woman’s issues.

It feels like a very toxic space, so that probably means it is, to us at least.

There aren’t any good ‘big’ ones, but local ones are often worth paying for and supporting since they actually do good journalism.

Hello incoming under 15s to the fediverse, hope you enjoy your time here!

There are other hosted instances of the software too :)

Yes, because unfortunately a lot of societies value youth and devalue elders. So it has become internalised as a self hatred to be older and not a good thing of having made it, which is amazing.

We are happy to help :)

There are ways around it though: https://imgur.artemislena.eu/bRL13h8.jpeg ;)

Here you go: https://imgur.artemislena.eu/bRL13h8.jpeg

For any who suffer from “Content not viewable in your region”: https://imgur.artemislena.eu/bRL13h8.jpeg

Amazing how they seemingly do not know what any of this means, as they’re getting several symbols and ideologies/systems mixed up.

Okay, hopefully this is in good faith and we will respond in kind.

So, yes, when taken at face value and explicitly what we said it could indeed be seen as ableist, so well done for calling us in. However, if we may, we’d like to add more thoughts on this.

We completely understand that people may not always be able to do things on their own all the time, though some people are not given the opportunity to try because they cannot operate on the same timescales others expect them to, which is something that has happened and continues to happen to us.

So there’s some nuance there in that, a lot of people could do things even with some disabilities if they were not expected to do it like everybody else or on the time scales of everybody else.

As for other people, yes, it is likely some people will need assistance either forever, or for a while until they either learn how to do something or gain the confidence to do something.

For example: We used to know another mostly nonverbal autistic person who a lot of people thought would be unable to do things, but their family cared and encouraged them to do things and they slowly learned that they could do things and were given the confidence to do so as well.

For the other side, sure, maybe some people will never be able to do things, especially with certain physical disabilities, but that doesn’t mean we should automatically write them off and not give them the chance to try or think they are not worth time, encouragement, understanding, cooperating with or friendship etc.

The point is, there’s a lot of assumptions in society and amongst individuals that people with certain conditions or ways of being can never do things or aren’t worth listening to and that leads to both horrible abuse and a lack of those people being given the chance to try, not pushed, not saying “they can do it!” if they clearly can’t but to figure out what they can do, what they can’t do, the time, environment and other such variables it takes them to do it if they can, and if they can’t, well, yes, we should help them, but it shouldn’t be an automatic assumption that we should do so or we will always have to.

Hopefully you have a better understanding of where we are coming from now with this.

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We think this is definitely worth looking into as we do not believe the mods of that community, nor the community itself are/is acting in good faith and are actively allowing harassment etc. Plus promoting someone or somemany to mod without their consent is not a good thing to do.

Edit: They are even acting against their own rules. Which is definitely not a good look:

"Community Rules:

No Hate Speech

No Hate Speech allowed whatsoever. This is a O tolerance policy. This goes for any form of hate and/or bigotry regarding race, religion, or LGBTQ+ identities.

While we will have discussions on political issues dealing with hate and bigotry AGAINST the LGBTQ+ community, please keep your comments respectful of ail parties.

Be better than how your enemies treat you."

Oh, thanks. It’s rare we meet others that understand. <3

People using the word stupid in the comments of a post to refer to people that were being anti-queer.

For one: We don’t consider being anti-queer ‘stupid’, but cruel, callous, lacking in compassion etc.

For two: Considering others to be beneath you in the ability to do things or think, whether or not you like them is ableist and has a long history in eugenics, racism, classism and other such things which is pretty much how we explained it; having a classification system of ‘intelligence’ is in itself ableist because it presupposes others are either completely unable to do things (which isn’t accurate) or not worth engaging with/listening to, which is understandable if they’re being horrible, but that’s not because they lack ‘intelligence’, just tolerance and compassion etc. They might also have things to say if they are not horrible but instead are treated horribly and ignored by society etc, we have both seen it personally, and been victim to it.

Yeah, we consider it very disproportionate given we were not meeting others with the vitriolic hatred and personal attacks they were meeting us with.

Maybe we should have just removed their comments and banned them instead, but we wanted to give them the chance to understand and change instead, our mistake, we guess.

We kindly asked people not to use ableist language, and answered their questions about why it’s ableist and what to say instead.

We also defended ourselves (without resorting to insulting them, just enforced our boundaries) when people attacked us (quite personally) for asking them to not be ableist.

So yeah, just plain strange, we don’t consider asking people kindly to stop doing something, or defending ourselves without being cruel: ‘Trolling/Harassment’. If anything they were harassing and trolling us.

Thanks for explaining! <3

We will try, yeah.

Yes, we understand who you are referring to. We just don’t understand what ‘rogue’ means in this context.

What do you mean by rogue?

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