While I’m definitely one to get mildly irritated at the phrasing (and am even more irritated by “fur babies” lol), I’m really bothered by people excusing their own rudeness - right up there with saying “no offense” right before being deliberately offensive. Like if you don’t want to yuck my yum or cause offense then why are you about to do it anyway?
socratic method: a method of teaching by question and answer; used by Socrates to elicit truths from his students https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Socratic_method