Weevil Friend

That’s a great idea! I’m glad that’s working for you :)

Are there specific people you find end up being the recipients of your frustration? I did a lot of lashing out on undeserved people and I can talk about that if that’s helpful!

Can I ask what the triggers are? I’ve always struggled with this but about two years ago I had a big stroke that made things a lot worse. I’ve been taking a systematic kind of approach to making a system to counteract triggers that I might encounter. Maybe if I know the things that are getting to you or causing the emotions you’re struggling with I can help! DMs are also open

That’s a good way of putting it! I normally act without regard for perceptions of masculinity or femininity and I feel like that’s appealing for couples looking for a third.

For me it’s happened twice overtly and I suspect once that didn’t become an explicit request. I’m vocally monogamous, I’m not very social, and I’m still kinda young so I feel like those numbers are pretty high. For me I feel like it’s how I present myself and act, which is pretty stereotypically “queer.” Once that gets picked up on by other couples I think they seem more interested.

To be completely honest I sought out a Lemmy frontend specifically because I wanted to tag you lol

I feel morally obligated to say that I have a t-shirt with this on it and it scored me my boyfriend of over five years that I fully intend to spend the rest of my life with