Absolutely not. Arrogant and asshole would disqualify him from being hot, even if in shape and good looking. And obviously he wouldn’t be likeable.

I think people misunderstand the “confidence is sexy”. It’s not arrogance or removediness, more like the sort of self-confidence that makes you feel the person accepts themselves and you. The people who are easy to talk to and who listen. That kind of just being at ease with the world, that most of us struggle with. That is the sexy confidence.

It really depends on where you live. I’m in zone 10 (subtropical) and can grow successfully:

In the cold season - fennel, collard greens, broccoli, cauliflower, cilantro, arugula, lettuces. Sometimes radishes. Eggplant and peppers (eggplant can last a few years here if no freeze)

In the hot season - okra, watermelon, basil, eggplant and peppers, sweet potato (Stokes Purple). Tomatoes. Hong tsoi (plant survives winter but produces in the rainy season)

Trees - citrus, figs, carambola, longan, loquat, bananas.

If you are in a cold place with little space, radishes are fast growing. Potatoes are filling and good to do in containers so you can find them. Greens are very healthy with so much nutrition per calorie, and collards don’t mind a freeze, neither does fennel.

I have not found one. If I come in at 9, leave at 18, or 18:30, if I come in at 8, same. So I come in at 9.

But in general here it’s a 9 hour day with an hour break for lunch, that makes the 8 hour workday.

We have clouds, but in the subtropics solar does pay for itself eventually, the sunlight is so direct. I don’t want panels on my roof (we finally got everything hurricane -rated, metal roof, storm windows, and insurers here will sometimes drop houses with solar panels on the roof) but would like solar carport, back porch, and if it was possible, yeah over the garden but angled for the dappled light - I lose a lot more food plants to too much bright sun, than any other factor.

It’s SO sunny here that I’d probably get better results in my garden by shading it under solar panels, there are plenty of places they help ag, not harm it. You don’t have to space them so tightly or have them completely flat like that picture.

No. IF they ask, and you know they are really asking, sure. Or if usually they are an awesome cook, and you are also an awesome cook, and this meal is bad, they already know, so sure, especially if you have actual advice to give. But if someone gives you a meal they are enjoying and you don’t like it, I don’t think a critique is appropriate, and particularly if the critique is just “man, you suck at cooking.” Generally speaking, if someone makes you a meal there is only one correct response and it’s “thank you.” No don’t praise the food if you think it sucks but just say thanks.

I think the point of communication is to communicate. People who “have no filter” aren’t communicating because they don’t care how their words are received. (ETA, neither are those who send emails to cover their ass, just to prove they ‘communicated’) Knowing your audience is half the battle, right? I am harshly straightforward with other people who are, because if they can dish it they better be prepared to take it. But mostly I try to speak in a way that can be received by the person I’m talking to.

I’m ok with the no filter people unless it’s someone using it as an excuse to be mean, that does happen. “I’m just brutally honest!” No. You are not.

She was 9 months pregnant and they couldn’t wait and schedule her court date after the birth?

Clearing the room is not a good defense. Have you ever had a baby? I have, and handcuffed it would be terrifying. Being in court IN ACTIVE LABOR should not be allowed at all, how can you give real answers or pay any attention to what is going on?

Sure, but being physically embodied is not some unclean state, and those ideas have some pretty dark roots. Purity as a concept is such bullshit. There were also the colonics people, who got these crazy enemas and tried to get their insides clean. I’m sure they are dead now, that’s just not how bodies work. We need all that gross stuff inside us to be healthy!

A huddle they were doing soon after a shift change. They were chanting, and I found it so creepy and unsettling. The last thing we need is a Walmart cult.

I am a mom, but used to sometimes carry my oldest by her feet, in one hand, squirming like a fish, when she had a fit somewhere out in the world when she was toddler age. The change of perspective seemed to help. That kid also ended up being an acrobat.

My brother always held babies so awkwardly, even his own, it was funny.

You don’t need belief to measure prices, or wages.

I used to work in a health food store and remember I could always tell who the raw foods guys were (it was always guys) because they had crazy eyes. They were crazy.

I’m sure most of us could stand to eat more raw foods, but dude. That fruitarian thing makes zero sense. It’s people who think bodies are dirty, they want to transcend this filthy mortal plane and be clean and pure. That whole mindset is so twisted.

What the fuck?

No. Though to be fair, I don’t live in the cold part of the US.

So sorry to hear that shitty education is not unique to us.

To do? Charcoal, or pencil drawing. Yes I try not great but it feels good to do. Nudes mostly. Followed by nature photography, if I can catch something cool. Here is one from my work’s office park.

To see? Animated stories and comics are my favorite.

Go dancing, maybe? Or just start walking places as your transportation method, that kept my mom slim her whole life. I am not a super active person, love to sit & read too, but a lifetime of experience has taught me that I will not sleep well or eat enough if I do not exercise or do plenty physical activity.

It’s running in particular I dislike, but running in particular really helps anxiety.

Yeah jogging never felt good while I was doing it, no runner’s high at all, always a slog. But did feel much better on a day I ran, than on a day I did not. I ran back then because the only free time I had was 5-6 in the morning, and no money, running has almost no barrier to entry. Put on shoes and go.

Now I just ride electric bike (I pedal it) to work and do yoga, lift and walk, work in the garden -build activity into normal life by not driving and growing food, nothing active that I don’t like to do, still feel good in my body & mind. Aerobic exercise does more, but anything helps.

Cut generously and use the cut off ends to make kvass (tepache de fresa). Yum yum.

ETA: or tepache de gnome I suppose.

It’s not my thing, I do have a small basket of stocks I call gambling (they break even) and husband spends $2 a week on a lottery ticket.

Other than those I abstain, it’s not really fun to me.

It takes 6 weeks to build a habit - do it for 6 weeks then decide. At that point, usually you will feel better on days you exercise than days you don’t. So yes, habituated but it doesn’t take years.