

All the things here.
The method I’ve been having most success with lately is a severe restriction of myself.
Part of that is because if I don’t wanna do the Thing, it’s so incredibly easy to forget the Thing, my mind doesn’t wanna hold it.
Currently, the routine I follow when I fail to self-motivate is
- Drop my kid off
- Maybe remember pills
- Maybe remember caffeine (coffee is my goto)
- Sit on the couch, think about my day
- The remote is close, do a YouTube on my TV.
- 4 YouTubes in, now understand the Chinese role in ww2 and the life cycle of 2 different moths, realize I have things to do.
- Get up, forget the things, make too much food.
- Watch things on my phone/scroll Lemmy/play mobile games
- Oh crap I have to get my kid
I have found that removing individual parts, like telling myself “no YouTube today”, only works temporarily, until I get distracted by something else, then I forget the new rule. So all it really does is reorder the schedule above.
BUT, I have found that removing all of the distractions, even the important ones like food, until I have begun the important task, helps.
So based on what I typed above, my rule for the day looks like No YouTube, no social media, no mobile games, no breakfast, no sitting on the couch I have to spell out each thing, I can’t just say “no distractions”, because the me in the moment thinks it’s a break or I’m warming up to doing the thing, some nonsense.
After an hour of doing the Thing, I get a break for breakfast, it is important. But once ive put that time into doing the Thing, it’s a lot easier to get back to it.
So the new schedule is
- Drop my kid off
- Know I need to do something, but the Thing has slipped my mind.
- Mentally run through a list of things I could do. Because so much is banned, and the Thing is forgotten, this turns up nothing.
- Realize I haven’t taken my pills or made coffee, do those
- After those, I remember why those are all I’m allowed to do, and therefore remember the Thing.
- Delay a bit because the Thing is boring or hard, but still can’t do anything else
- Do. The. THING. (For an hour)
- Breakfast, which feels so good, and dopamines the brain, hopefully making the Thing easier in the future.
- Do more Thing.
I hope this helps. This is only possible because of my prescribed Meth, caffeine, and because I’m actually a lot better at telling myself what not to do than to just do something. Good luck, we all need it.
Too specific. Needed at least a quick refresher on all ocean life first. Gotta let them get warmed up before you hit them with the good stuff.