If you worry about being a narcissist, you are not one. A narcissist would never introspect like that or care.

False. If you suspect narcissistic personality disorder, it is completely valid and you probably need to research the vulnerable side of it or the covert side of it.

Grandiose is the one with an inflated-ego, the famous one, and the DSM-5 describes mostly the grandiose narcissist. Vulnerable is the one where you feel like a misunderstood outcast or a victim of others, maybe even like a “stupid piece of shit” (quoting Bojack Horseman) that possibly deserved your hardships in life.

People with NPD or NPD traits can oscillate between different levels of these two presentations throughout their lives.

Overt is when you show that in ‘public’ (either grandiose or vulnerable). Covert is when nobody knows or can confirm you feel this way (either grandiose or vulnerable), it’s more of a secret.

In recent years, I’ve met people with undiagnosed NPD later confirmed and a person with diagnosed BPD with not enough narcissistic traits for a diagnosis, but some important ones there. That’s only to exemplify that it is not uncommon. I’m glad they were curious and open.

It’s crazy to think that a whole diagnostic category and clinical spectrum is in the shadows because of that myth: “you wouldn’t be thinking about it”. Of course you would, person receiving that “advice”, you are not an idiot and I’m sure you are noticing something about yourself. You deserve to know if it’s NPD or some other thing, and to get help and to feel better about your life.

My earworm. Haggard - Chapter I: Tales of Ithiria. Yes, I recommend it, but it’s not their best album. I prefer And Thou Shalt Trust the Seer or Awaking the Centuries.

¿Alburero, gótico y lemming? Eres una extraña combinación.

Blue letters.

I have something like this. Nothing Was the Same by K. R. Jamison is about grief and about her experience of losing a loved one. I’m saving it for the moment I lose my parents. I know I’ll need her to bring some consolation and perspective because it’s going to hurt.

On the bright side, you’d given me a perfect example to share when they ask me why I don’t like 00s+ emo culture (in general), and their influence then and now in rock and metal music.

The Others (2001), The Orphanage (2007), 1408 (2007), The Skeleton Key (2005), A Dark Song (2016).

I just feel bad for the ones not supporting this nonsense.

I’m guessing they already eat lentils, beans, chickpeas, etc. But this is not only Milei making people poor (that sucks), it is restricting beef which Argentinians probably are very attached to because of their typical dishes.

I get it. Reducing or eliminating beef from our diets can be great (for the majority), but this is not the way we should expect people to get to this lifestyle (against their ability to choose), so it can be a bad moment to mention the silver linings or even good advice like plant-based protein. That’s my opinion; it reads detached of the problem.

Northern America*, Anglo America*. But yeah, the comment was a little “oh, opportunity for diet ✨”, lol.

Yup, I would like to see the Californias united.

We have three pieces nowadays. North California (Alta California, today’s “California”) and South California (Baja California, today broke into two). Two were already bad… Let’s move into one, please.

(But don’t let the US administration get ideas).

I was going to answer that Mexico as it once was, from current US southern states to Panama. Then, the northern US states, Canada, and Alaska could be their own tranquil cold lands.

Maybe even a division by old territories and languages so that Bolivar’s dream came true. From old Mexico (New Spain) to Cape Horn (or whatever the southernmost point lies). I cannot say that country would have been better than the USA (in terms of atrocities, wars, etc.), but I’m still curious.

Also, Brazil not imposing Portuguese to their citizens. They used to speak a criolle language, if I remember correctly. If a kind Brazilian reads this, maybe they can correct and explain it.

Michael Jackson and Matthew Perry, because both died by overdosing on medication that was meant to help them.

They had sad and hard periods in their life, but they both wanted to be okay and to be happy! They did everything we are told to: reach out, ask for help, follow doctors orders.

…It feels so unfair, they feel like lives interrupted (as many many others). So them, even though I am not a fan.

Fake stupidity or ignorance, just a little. Otherwise, you risk getting people on their defensive sides (e.g., doctors, lawyers, architects).

I mean, the number of violent childhoods (physical violence, but also psychological and of course the poverty, hunger, the stress of those situations, the neglect, etc.) in your country, plus the pederasty and pedophilia club running the government and corporations make me think children (in the second case it’s mainly ‘little girls’) are not that important either in current years. Yes, we make fun of the “think of the children!” discourse in the U.S., but those are just words. At least from the distance, I don’t think you’re protecting children enough (and the same is true for a lot of countries, but that’s beyond the point).

Definitely foxes and some others already mentioned. Maybe ringtails. In my region we call them ‘cacomixtle’ which sounds cacophonic (and cute). They’re like racremoved-cats.

Early 30s. API debacle.

My roller skates came with a defect, after all, and I lost the momentum. Now I’m drawing. Well, no, actually, I haven’t done that in a while… I think now I’m entering poetry territory. Is there a “hobbies, in general, just tell us about yours” community? We are enough for something like that.

This only applies to people left from centrism (progressivism, anarchism, socialism…). “Wokes”, “liberals”, “tankies”, I’ll put them all as leftists in this text.

What is your least favorite thing about the Fediverse or Lemmy?

Lemmy. That interest in politics and critical thinking in general end when we arrive to topics do not concerning the life of the average lemming.

News about technology? Oh, yes, capitalism is wrong and Google is ruining this and let’s do that… Feminism? Meh. Antiracism. Anticolonialism. Humanities defense? Whatever.

Of course, why would women or POC or the third world or non-STEM things would interest a bunch of first world STEM white men? Empathy or congruence with leftism? What’s that? (sarcasm)

And it’s tiring that you see how much time they spend talking about U.S. politics or online privacy, but not a thought can be put when you point out a non-privileged problem. I’ve even seen people get downvoted for saying something they posted or said was problematic.

In my region, leftists often separate completely from these spaces because of this. I don’t want to, I like it here and, overall, my experience is positive and enriching. But yeah, this is one of the worst aspects of Lemmy in my opinion.

Also, neurodiversity, mental illness, and basic mental health care. People are discovering they are autistic, ADHDers, etc. They’re learning how to prevent depression or how to apply DBT tools (e.g., for emotional regulation, for judging less). It’s amazing.