🤷 I don’t know.

In fact on thinking about it, I strongly believe both my parents probably do atleast. We’re all the black sheep of the extended family. The rest might have something or not but ultimately the source is different from the outcome. The outcome in this case being my subjective experience of being raised by family who acted in emotionally immature ways.

I grew up with my parents screaming and yelling at eachother and me. Which was by far of course not the only emotionally immature behavior but is a good contrast to the rest of my extended family who won’t even talk to eachother about any issues they’re having with one another.

They have a third family member communicate back and forth for them. I have seen that happen multiple times in my life, and it’s always only after it’s clearly been affecting both sides for months.

I’m 30 now. I got diagnosed at 28. Burned-out at 22 or so.

Grew up in a fairly authoritarian house where large areas of personal expression were disallowed / unacceptable and others were or felt restricted through more or less RSD conflicting with emotionally immature family.

I learned to play an acceptable act and abandoned many parts of myself without even really being aware that I was. Not only that, but as my ADHD symptoms manifested more as I grew up, it also turned me from other “acceptable” things I loved. I realize this is different than your experience of never coming to know yourself.

But the point I want to make is that, in my opinion, ADHD and masking erase much of what we were, and stunt where we are in many ways. And I think there’s 3 main areas to focus toward in undoing that damage.

Even though I’m 30 I’m more or less in the position of an early 20’s person in many ways. So I try to allow myself the things a 20-something would be doing.

Try new activities, step outside your comfort zone, form new friends groups. You won’t simply discover who you are if you do not subject yourself to a range of experiences and continue those you find bring you some inner understanding, peace, or positive emotion.

For me, a man largely raised by women but in a family where men exhibiting femininity was judged, a large part has been accepting and expressing my femininity.

I paint my nails loud obnoxious shiny colors now. Could barely have imagined doing black a few years ago, literally had to be coaxed into it. Now in a complete 180, I love dressing up and picking/wearing glasses and jewelry and I know what colors and fits of clothes look good on me, etc.

Second, I accept and listen to my ADHD with compassion rather than try to exert willpower to fight it constantly. I do what I/it actually need now and accept that though it makes me struggle in other ways it’s worth it.

I work again, but only 25 hours a week and I still call out when I need to, which is more than most would. I don’t hold my incapacities against myself anymore but instead do my best to accomodate them. I focus on what is making doing things hard and try to eliminate as many obstacles as possible. Cut down on the number of things I need to commute to and from work every day is a big one for me as an example.

And a third aspect encapsulating all of this imo is pursuing medical treatment. I did a lot of cognitive behavioral therapy work with professionals and alone during my several years of burnt-out, still before I had any idea I had ADHD, working toward a better mental landscape.

Learning to trust myself, learning to treat myself with kindness and compassion, learning how to nurture myself. Focusing on learning mindfulness and improving my executive function. It’s hard to find yourself if you’re wading through a lot of negative emotion and past experience.

I also found the meds to be incredibly effective once I did get a suspicion and seek/get diagnosis. Through therapy, I’d been able to learn to keep up on house tasks and errands and personal upkeep and whatever like a teen. I was barely keeping up, but I was doing it. When I got on the meds, I suddenly could do all that with way more consistency and less effort, but could also feel like I was able to work part-time while doing so.

Wishing you better times and much growth in self-knowledge and contentedness. 💜

TL;DR:

Pursue cognitive behavioral therapy, and ADHD meds. Try new things and meet new people. Push your comfort zone. Treat and listen to yourself/your needs with nurturing and compassionate understanding and accommodation.

They can indeed side-step the issues that have been argued to rule on other areas of the law. Honestly the Supreme Court can really do whatever it wants with-in the judicial realm.

More than any other US power structure, they are the only ones in charge of themselves. One of their greatest powers, Judicial Review / The Shadow Docket was literally not given in the constitution. They just took it up one day.

If you’re gonna talk about me behind my back, I’m gonna steal your meme!

Issue came down to the fact that after the husband caught them, he chose to record the wife in their shared home, which she also had a right to privacy inside even during an affair. Her right to privacy in the home overcame his affirmative defense of needing the recording for evidence in civil litigation.

This is all in Taiwanese court so I have no idea on how rights or laws or court procedure works there, to be fair. So I can’t say if this a precedental ruling or common type of enforcement, or how likely it is to be upheld if appealed. I just hate inflammatory headlines.

Article posits it’s due to midterm election politics, and I find that fairly persuasive.

They really haven’t gotten along very much through-out their interactions, so I think it’s just politically-motivated handshaking to avoid setting up a very divisive leadership election that can only leave much of the party unhappy anyway.

Most likely the left would feel snubbed because we’re still only 33% or whatever of the party, and if not then the center would feel alienated AND the left of the left still wouldn’t be happy with whoever it was. Not really blaming them to be clear, that’s just big tent politics at work.

Some don’t know, some don’t care, some agree with their actions/opinions.

While it’s important every individual develop and maintain a moral framework, individuals rarely if ever use morality as the sole basis for day to day decisions/actions.

The world just doesn’t operate on a solely moral basis. Some don’t consider the morality of mundane acts, some find the morality of a thing excusable/justifiable when considered, and some come to find their morals agree.

I used to drink to blackout once or twice a month when I was younger to “de-stress”.

Once I found weed I literally just stopped drinking. All desire for it evaporated.

I only ever have a drink with a nice meal when I’m out, and considering the economy I stopped doing that years ago.

So she got a piece of grass stuck in there, gagged a bunch, and then either had an upset stomach from grass or an oversensitive reflex from the irritation.

Thank God these creatures self-domesticated because clearly they need competent and devoted servants to survive.

If this is real, it’s honestly very impressive a man spent his entire life in the clergy, genuinely devoting himself to his flock, and still kept up with tech better than his brother, who I think is in finance of some kind?

I feel like I am crazy. Did he not already get called on doing this before and then just said: “I need to because I’m President.”

Someone alert FunHole.

Don’t Be Evil ☝️

I’ve heard Count Binface is saying there was confusion at the polls. Voters could not tell the candidates apart as both are filled with garbage.

I thought there was a screw under the rubber at one point for the middle part and went at it with a screwdriver.

Rest is just wear.

Middle click was gone for years, yeah.

I don’t like scroll-wheel clicking luckily. Has never felt natural. Just set middle click to one of the thumb buttons and never thought about it again tbh. 😅

I think more than directly chemical, a lot of my depression and anxiety symptoms were due to not knowing what to do about constantly feeling a little physiologically bad at all times.

My ADHD gives me this like, in the same way sadness can hurt physically, physical sense of not being stimulated enough. But I don’t really find like stimming helps it so I used to just kinda feel, as I would describe it, that every passing second was like a grinding stone(from like a mill) was turning right between my eyes and on my center forehead. Not painful as that would be, but just a negative and constant awareness of time passing.

So between RSD, emotional dysregulation and whatever that sympyom would be called, I think I was basically just using anxiety/sadness as a more pleasant place to be than that and an explanation for why I felt bad and eventually it became habit/engrained.

Between cognitive behavioral therapy and then the meds, I think I just stabilized enough to realize I was kinda helping rather than fighting the depression/anxiety.

I still have depressed periods of a few days to a few weeks, but they’re mild and I notice as I am going through them and when I am out.

And I still catch myself thinking anxious thoughts or worrying about how I am perceived or misunderstandings, but it’s possible, even easy often, for me to simply realize I’m having more anxiety that day, and write it all off/stop focusing on it.

I was started on 30mg Vyvanse because I basically went to my doctor and said: “I need meds so I can work again like now or I’m gonna be homeless my guy” and it’s been wonderful for me. I take a 10mg booster mid-day also.

It lets me do the house tasks and work 25 hours a week without falling apart. It reduced my anxiety and depression sympyoms to the point I don’t feel held back by them. It used to help make it easier to think and make my hobbies enjoyable again as well but now less so.

I asked to go to 40mg in the morning so we’ll see how that goes. Hoping it improves my enjoyment of things I wanna do.

As far as side effects it’s just a bit hard to empty my bladder at times.

So far as I know, gig work is not counted in the data, meaning driving for delivery apps, etc. So they probably dropped from the tracked economy into the gig economy.

I was wrong, see below comment

Some may also have pursued further education in some form.

Seperately, considering the adjustment downward for literally every months data following it’s release, you can probably assume even the slight gain in employment this month will be adjusted down to a loss overall in a month or two.

Lithium ion batteries cannot super accurately report their own charge so the percentage isn’t necessarily digit accurate.

I am also usually just making sure it’ll get me to a place I can charge it when I actually need to worry about charge. That doesn’t usually require like the difference between say 33% and 26% for me.

I just need to be able to see if I’ve got like a fifth of battery left or less / more.

Admitedly also with the ADHD if there’s a percentage I fixate on it for no reason so it’s less annoying for me to have it off.

Same with the battery level in my e-bike. 👀 I know it’ll get me to work and back as it always does but not constantly fixating on the remaining battery is impossible.