Parents don’t even need to be actively pushing you away they can just be dumb and oblivious to their actions and refuse to do any self reflection.

My mom is this way, she voted for Trump so I confronted her on it and told her she chose to support a vile man over her own child and she’s just like “politics doesn’t equal love, who I voted for doesn’t reflect my love for you.” I told her you can’t vote to take away my healthcare and rights and still say she cares about me. She just refused to accept that and the last words she said to me was that I would understand things in time and come back to her. We haven’t spoken in over a year and tbh life is actually better without her.

I know how this will play out too, she won’t try and fix things until my wife and I have a child which will be the first grandchild of hers. At that point it will be far to late in my eyes.