I always hear about the benefits of forgiveness, but that almost seems always like the worst choice.
I had a shitty family with mother that was manipulative which led me to being depressed for more than 4 years, while trying to forgive her and my sisters.
I finally took the decision to stop trying to forgive them and stopped talking and contacting them(since more than a month ago) and my mood and mind had never been better. I was even surprised about the speed depression left me since then.
My point is, forgiveness is a very bad choice.
Even Tit for Tat would agree with my opinion here.
I agree completely. I never took to the whole “forgive and forget” mentality. Thing is, my memory sucks, so I do forget… I just never forgive. So there are a lot of people I hold grudges against for reasons I can’t remember. I just assume that past me knew what he was doing when he started the grudge in the first place.